....of things he/she likes in bed? Of romantic things he/she likes out of bed? Of anything big or little that makes him/her love you more? If you woke up and found a letter with a list like that in, what would you think about that?
2007-11-17 19:51:59 · 21 answers · asked by ms_moonlight1977 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There was conversation, of course. The list seems to be an aid to the conversation.
2007-11-17 19:59:47 · update #1
I would take it as a hint my husband wanted me to learn more about pleasing him. I would study the list, then make one of my own for him to study!
Then, put all that new information into action and have fun.
2007-11-17 19:57:25 · answer #1 · answered by DSL 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends. If it was a list of "here's what I like that YOU do, and here's what I like that you don't do" I would be grateful for the guidance. If it were just a general list of "here's what I like, here's what I don't like" I would probably be insulted and worry that I wasn't pleasing him.
Again, if it were "Here are the things you do that make me love you more" I would be flattered and probably write a similar list for him. But if it were "here are some things you COULD do to make me love you more" I would probably burn the list in front of him.
It all depends on how things are worded. He could spin that in a way that's flattering (not to mention helpful) to you or he could spin it in a way that's insulting and degrading.
If the latter is true: slap him and leave. If the former: be grateful that he feels so open with you, and return the favor.
2007-11-17 21:07:53 · answer #2 · answered by Been here before 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love rocks. I would be so touched. I have the best rock story although it is about my daughter and not a significant other. She wanted a really big rock and we drove around trying to find a big rock. She kept wanting me to take people's cornerstone display rocks but I told her we can't that would be stealing. I was almost late for work and we didn't find a rock that would please her. I worked the counter that night as a waitress and was telling my customers and two of the regulars told me that they found two big silver colored rocks and they didn't know what they were but they would give me one. They even left right away to get it. It was heavy and very unusual. I brought it home to my daughter. She loved it but that was not the best part. When I got home from work that night I found her new rock wrapped up in a baby blanket wearing her underwear. It was so cute. I have told that story many times. She is grown now and I still have that rock. I still have no idea what kind of rock it is as I can't find anything like it in rock books. For all I know it could be radioactive or of alien origin.
2016-05-24 01:40:18 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell, I would try to do as many things as possible on that list, but before I started I would make a list of my own. How bad can it be? It can only make the relationship better. Enjoy it!
2007-11-17 21:18:24 · answer #4 · answered by lekeshia s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would take it as a way of trying to communicate their needs, and look at it, read it, try not to be insulted, and write my own list and give it back but also let them know if some of those things were for the time being out of reach.
2007-11-17 19:57:46 · answer #5 · answered by opal 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Discusse it with your spouse ... ask why certing things might be on there .. then do things from the list from time to time .. dont change your whole life over it .. If he/she like to be seduced in the shower .. do it .. once in a while .. or else there will be a whole new list in a few months .. with diffrent things cuz they got all they wanted the first time .. :D
2007-11-17 20:02:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me in this. LISTEN carefully to it ...... fast forward 23 yrs and hubbs is still having a hard time communicating issues that seem "simple" .. so USE IT as a tool to communicate and feel thankful that you get one!
Seems silly now?! But years from now you will say "Wow, that list sure was a great thing, now I have a list for him of stuff that annoy me he does!!" lol .. j/k .. but it will be a great communication tool! TRUST ME!
2007-11-17 21:45:29 · answer #7 · answered by Queenie` 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say I'd commit that list to memory and see if there's two or three things you could add to your night fun, to make him feel like making a list is a waste of time.
2007-11-17 19:58:54 · answer #8 · answered by Your Uncle Dodge! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That they are an idiot. The best part of being with someone is getting to know them. And the best way to know if someone cares is by how well they know you. If you are making the effort to get to know them but they are not responding they can't really be mad you don't know them the way they want. If you never made an effort then it's their way of letting you know things they feel you should know. It's immature and shows they can't communicate though.
2007-11-17 20:04:02 · answer #9 · answered by rockpunkpixie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would seriously have to ask myself why my partner of several years didn't have the balls to tell me himself. However if I'd asked if there was something else I could do for us, and he then came up with the list I'd be more inclined to look at it as a way we could improve our relationship - as long as I could write one too.
2007-11-17 20:01:54 · answer #10 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋