i catch my husband having numbers that he gets from other women and when i call him on it, he says he has no intention of calling them. He admits that as long as he can get a number that its proof enough that he still gots "game". is that stupid, should i get mad and do you think he is lieing and he probably does call these other women? what would you do???
2007-11-17 19:47:02 · 16 answers · asked by as9119 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
thank you all so much for your support and for telling me what i needed to hear. i have no familiy and i didnt know if i was just going crazy cause all he does is manipulate things to make me feel like i am overreacting....thanks again for showing support.
2007-11-17 20:03:16 · update #1
I can see it as an ego stroke for him, but it should be enough that these women are hitting on him. You should ask yourself "If I were single, what would a guy have to do to get my number?" Yea there are a few women gutsy enough to wander up to a man and just give a number, but he's probably leading them on. I'd be cautious - Try to explain to him how it makes you feel - Also ask him to see it from your side, ask him how he would feel if he found a number of random men's phone number in your purse...I would be VERY VERY Careful...trust your instincts..
Even if he's telling the truth, there is going to be a point in time where maybe just numbers isn't going to be enough, and he's going to keep pushing the envelope until he gets caught
2007-11-17 19:53:42 · answer #1 · answered by Frznoooo_Sam 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does he hide the number??? Did you find them by snooping through his wallet. Or does he leave them anywhere, pants pocket etc.
If they are tucked away then he intends to use them. IF not then its just the "game".
However if it's just the game then what happens when he no longer has his game?? Will that mean he is going to step out on you then?? What's he going to do for proof then.
It's time to sit down with him and tell him look stop collecting numbers or this is going to leave me unsecure then I too will need to proof I still have Game too.
2007-11-18 04:57:21 · answer #2 · answered by wondermom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people, men and women do this. I think mostly for their egos; to let themselves know that they are still wanted and have options should their significant other act a fool.
I don't think its a serious matter as long as the relationship is a good one. If its shaky then, he or she might just use one of those numbers.
2007-11-18 03:57:26 · answer #3 · answered by N_Quizitive_1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that he's probably not cheating, but if you keep assuming that he is and making the accusations he probably will. I would also ask him to have respect for my feelings and tell him why it's hard for you see these phone #'s as no big deal and ask myself that question as well. There is a trust issue that needs to be addressed.
Hope it helps and good luck
2007-11-18 04:09:30 · answer #4 · answered by opal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is at least considering cheating - a bad sign. If he truly is innocent, he would not get defensive and he would call or speak to another woman in front of you, like if she's a colleague or neighbor. If he hides the numbers, I'd worry.
2007-11-18 03:53:56 · answer #5 · answered by DSL 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would he need to prove anything. Check his cell bill and see if he is calling them. Or if you dont have a cell phone the land line phone. Then figure out just how fast you can get out of there. Now a days it is way to easy to check on things like this.
Don't let him pull the wool over your eyes.
2007-11-18 03:56:08 · answer #6 · answered by firefly06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pinch him so hard ....hes laying .....why in the first place will he be getting these numbers from women ...posibly he tells them hes a single guy, and lives with his sister meaning you ...
men !! men !! can be so damn stupid at times ,hes married and keeps numbers and tells his beloved wive , as no i get them but i wouldnt call ...who knows what he does a minute he leaves home saying iam going for work and late nite he calls and say ...honey (with that devil love tone saying )honey iam working late , i will be home at so and so ...who then knoews hes going to someones house for a quick shake ....
To tell you the true try calling one of the womens number and pretend you are calling on his behalf saying he wants to see you this morning ..or say where does he meet you everytime ...and say thats where he said he will meet you ...hang up .
then see if its really a game that hes been playing on you ...and pinch his thing so he never takes you as a gal from hie hie ...hey you !! but instead as a well respected lady .if he tries to talk you out of it ..one more pinch it ...hahaha coz thats the thing which cant hold breaks!!!qaaaaah....pinch it !!hahaha
2007-11-18 04:06:33 · answer #7 · answered by Elizabeth N 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry.. when in a relationship you don't accept phone numbers from the opposite sex unless you plan on doing something with it. He shouldn't being accepting these phone numbers.
2007-11-18 08:50:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only reason to worry about still having "game" is if you intend someday to "play", regardless of when. It's not good and it's proably time for counseling.
2007-11-18 03:56:57 · answer #9 · answered by Your Uncle Dodge! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What he says is true but no woman will ever understand or believe it. That is because women think they know everything and disregard any opinion that varies from that.
2007-11-18 04:07:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋