I have heard that when one is intimate with one's partner, in women there are hormones that release, that calm her and also actually make her more attracted to her spouse/partner. My question is for men to reply to mainly: do you feel more emotionally attached/attracted to your spouse, the more intimacy you experience together? Or is it a much bigger deal, emotionally speaking, for women than for men?
2007-11-17 19:35:13 · 19 answers · asked by ms_moonlight1977 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am referring to married couples, who are not about to break up.
2007-11-17 19:46:31 · update #1
On average it is the same for men.
At least that is what I have been led to believe from the comments other men have made.....
2007-11-17 19:40:51 · answer #1 · answered by Harley Charley 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not a bigger deal emotionally for women than men but it's different and very complicated depending on the situation and the mental health of the person. For instance, a cheater or sex addict, will not feel more attached, a person under the influence of drugs or alcohol will not feel higher functional emotions, etc. Each person is different, however more intimacy definitely builds more feeling in a healthy relationship and is necessary to maintain it.
2007-11-18 03:43:57 · answer #2 · answered by Frankie 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I feel emotionally attached and attracted to my partner but intimacy is only part of the reason. Intimacy is definitely a contributing factor, but there are other factors that include, and are not restricted to, trust, respect, admiration, equality and love. I could list other factors of attraction which would include lust and desire. I believe that most men feel emotion as much as most women, but are programmed from an early age to "behave like a man" which in most cases means stifling ones emotions or replacing one "feminine" emotion with a more "masculine" or male acceptable emotion such as anger or humour. Not exhibiting emotion is more acceptable to most males than exhibiting an emotion that they considered feminine or seen as a sign of weakness. Men, so we are taught from an early age, are supposed to act like men.
2007-11-18 03:48:16 · answer #3 · answered by Col B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So far I understand yes it's bigger deal for a woman than a men. Woman are more emotionally bonded to her partner than man, however only intimacy is not the only thing which is considered. There more factors...trust, taste, appetite, drive and appeal...
2007-11-18 03:41:41 · answer #4 · answered by Fayaz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As for married partners and long-term single couples sharing intimacy, I would agree they do in fact share the emotional connection that you mention. And yes, it increases with more intimacy (besides the physical side of sex that men "always" want, deep down they yearn for that emotional connection as well with the one they love). It is a big deal -- the biggest deal there is, I think -- because it is basic human nature to share that emotional connection & find our one true love that we will be happy with -- the "happily ever after" sought & found in fairy tales & in real life if you find your true love. As to the hormone released that calms her, I think you are actually referring to pheromones, which increase sex appeal, enhance moods & reveal a breathlessly captivating attraction!
2007-11-18 04:09:26 · answer #5 · answered by Andy K 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would imagine that depends on the individual. I've slept with people from both camps. I find as I grow older that men and women are really the same; any condition reflecting otherwise is usually due to social programming. I think we would benefit our children of tomorrow to stop asking questions and making implications like this. It is this that perpetuates a perceievd difference. To assume there is some genralized, across the board answer for this is short-sighted.
2007-11-18 03:41:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
from experience you definitely feel more attached and attracted to your spouse the more intimate you get but then in the other hand you do have guys that really dont care.
2007-11-18 03:41:24 · answer #7 · answered by QT 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah I'm more emotionally attached to my gf
but that's just me
i ⥠her no matter what
I also heard that women r more attached after wards b/c in men our testosterone blocks the hormone that women get to make us feel closer.
2007-11-18 03:41:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is MUCH more emotional for women. I dont suppose that I can speak for ALL men so I wont. To me sex is sex. I have NEVER been married so I do not kow if that has anything to do with it.
2007-11-18 03:41:51 · answer #9 · answered by shootit247 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a woman, but sexual intimacy creates the closest bond two people can have, and it works both ways. It exposes everything about you to the other person...no pun intended.
2007-11-18 03:40:13 · answer #10 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that women are more emotional than men. Women are emotional, and men are logic. Each man can answer for himself. It depends if he is serious or just out for some fun. Know what I mean?
2007-11-18 03:41:03 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋