2007-11-17 18:33:34 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The uncertainty, first & foremost. Secondly, (in my case, the primary reason) they think they were the cause of the divorce.
Be honest with them & tell them as much as they can truly understand what the real cause was (infidelity being the hardest to explain). Reassure them, that they were not the cause & that both daddy & mommy love them very much, but can't be together anymore.
I'm a single dad of 3 boys going through a divorce right now(and was a child of divorced parents) -- both breakups caused by infidelity. The hardest thing for me to deal with (as a child) was that I never really got a good explanation of why? I didn't understand until I was older & put two & two together. Unfortunately, I just went through this with my boys -- it is extremely difficult, as mom lives far away, & the boys simply didn't understand why they can't live with her or why mom & dad can't be together again (I have full custody). Phew!
Best of luck to you!
2007-11-17 18:51:16 · answer #1 · answered by Andy K 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Children need a safe and protected environment in which to grow. When parents divorce that radically changes the living arrangements. Children may see no reason for the break up because they were not privy to the discussions or disagreements leading up to it, or they may even think it was something they did wrong that caused it. In other cases they see one parent at fault and blame them for the divorce. All of this is very confusing to young children and requires adjustment especially if they were very close to the parent that leaves. Sometimes parents use the children in their power struggles, or make derogatory statements about each other causing the child to dislike one or both. There are just many reasons why it is a difficult situation for a young immature child who doesn't have the coping mechanisms and ability to understand adult decisions.
2007-11-17 18:58:07 · answer #2 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because their parents are the two most important people in the world to them... naturally, they want to see them live together happily.
Think of how you would feel if you had to separate two of your children because they just couldn't get along and felt they had to live apart? It would crush a parent to have to do this since we want to see our children get along and love each other. Children feel the same about their parents.
Divorce is a very emotionally trying for anyone involved and everyone needs to be handled in a sensitive manner.
2007-11-18 00:33:38 · answer #3 · answered by Teddy Bear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the same reason you would have a hard time if you lost everything in your life that meant anything at all to you, and was left wondering where you were going to end up.
2007-11-18 00:17:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, probably because most kids love mom and dad. Divorces mean mom and dad don't live full time with the kids. Pretty obvious isn't it?
2007-11-17 18:59:50 · answer #5 · answered by YJohnY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you seriously not know!? It's the next best thing to being abandoned by the people you love most.
2007-11-17 18:53:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not all kids do. Some do because it is the break up of their family and they are not sure where they will end up.
2007-11-17 18:37:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously due to bonds with parents.
2007-11-17 18:39:25 · answer #8 · answered by ensoman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ah let me guess. it tears a family apart?
2007-11-17 18:41:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋