i love my wife?

Question

i love my wife very much never relized how much i do married 10 years have to boys i made some mistakes but i have changed but she says its to late she is divorcing me i think for some one else she says she really cares about me and she says she loves me but not in love with me she cant do it anymore she says never cheated she kicked me out of my house i never seen her be so cold to me or anybody in my life she says i abouse my kids i abouse her never did i only stayed in my room so we dont fight and i had other problems in my head and i told her this but she never told me there was a problem in are marrage only told other people and never me she also said i was controling i never was i get mad when she goes out and never calls to say she will be home or to drunk to drive what should i do

Answer 1

She is being a self-centered brat! Start listing to Dr. Laura on AM radio. Then arrange for the two of you to talk to Dr. Laura. She will put your wife in her place faster than I can type this paragraph! Your kids come first! The two of you need to grow up and realize the importance of family in their lives and the devastating effects a divorce can cause not only to your children but to your future grandchildren as well. God Bless!

Answer 2

Think about it throughly. Have you really done mistakes which someone can not forget and accept you? Do you deserve a divorce? Ok, now you say you have changed, are you sure you won't repeat that when things get normal again? Ask her if anything you can do atleast as a last chance to this marriage. Talk to her, find out why and for what all reasons she need a divorce. You yourself see, if you can surely do that. Then go back to her for another chance. I guess in that way she will also come to know you want to work on it and you have given a good thought.
But if she is really adamant on what she wants, there could be other reasons also. Ask her why is that she is so. You have kids together, may be she will consider.
Thats what happens, when we make mistakes we think only about ourself. That time we should be ready for this situation as well. Because may be we deserve this. If this happens, accept it and move on. Try to be a nice person to ur kids and wife even after than. Who know if she is doing a mistake by filing for divorce. Good luck.

Answer 3

Give her the freedom to be without you, but let her know that the door is always open if she wants to come back to you. Sounds like you guys just had a massive communication problem--no one's fault, really. These things happen. But you could both benefit from counseling. Just to find ways to deal with each other. If she never told you there was a problem, then she might have trouble communicating with you. However, were there times that you may have made her feel guilty when she tried to talk to you before? That could have resulted in her not wanting to tell you things.

About her never calling you, that's something that could easily be solved. About her accusations of abuse, I don't know what went on there. If you held up your fist out of frustration once, she might have though that was a threatening action...even though it wasn't in your eyes.

Answer 4

Unfortunately one person can make a unilateral decision to end a marriage. It usually happens that way in fact. The other is often left wondering what happened, how to fix things, or what to do next. From her point of view, the things she told you that went wrong- really did go wrong. You may not be able to understand her perception of the state of the marriage if she was unable to communicate her feelings to you. That happens a lot.

If she wants to leave there is nothing you can do to change that, it is her decision. You can try to talk to her if she agrees, and you could suggest that you both see a counselor. It could help you both sort out your issues so that you can try again. But if she won't then you might wish to see one by yourself.

Answer 5

No offense, but can you throw in a sentence or two, not it all ran together!

It is so hard to read .. or don't even do a sentence, hit return twice and do a new paragraph ..

Go out with your wife. That might solve some.

Good Luck!

Answer 6

LET HER GO!!!! man just let her go. been there done that. It will be hard at first but I promise you ,you will get over her.

Answer 7

Learn english and learn how to spell...Sheesh.