i'm a 15 yr. old girl and my mom passed away 2 years ago and i've been having obsessive thoughts about digging up her grave. ugh. i want to see for myself that's she dead because i still can't believe it. i just can't get myself to believe she's actually dead. ughhh. what should i do? i keep having these THOUGHTS and they won't leave my head. ACK!!!
2007-11-17 17:45:03 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
your not the only one to have weird thoughts, join the club...um, best thing i think you could do would be to just go visit the grave, and just kinda stand there for a while. or, i know it doesn't sound like a good idea, but in your case, it probably is; just try to forget or think that you never even had mom in the first place. i know your like "how could i forget my mother?!?!?!" but, that probably would help.
2007-11-17 17:55:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 9⤋
I know that this may be freaking you out a little bit right now but your thoughts are totally normal.
Is there anyone that you can talk to, in person, about your thoughts? A trusted friend or adult? Your school counselor? A trusted teacher? Sometimes talking about thoughts and feelings and knowing that you are not weird or unusual will take away the constant thoughts that you are having.
Is there anything in particular that brought these thoughts on? Think about that one and try to figure out why they initiated these thoughts.
If it's any help google search grief. You are going to find a ton of information about the stages we go through when we deal with a loss.
Aww sweetheart... just remember... you are totally normal... nothing is wrong with you... you could just be dealing with something right now that you are not aware of... try to talk with someone about it... and always remember that you are not alone... many, many people, myself included, have gone through what you have and have moved on to develop into beautiful, caring, giving individuals.
2007-11-17 18:04:48 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are not alone thinking like this. I went through this when I was only 14 years old. I could not sleep thinking my Grandad might still be alive. I did not want to believe he was really gone. The thing that helped me was finding out when a person dies they are embombed. That means there blood is pushed out of there body and replaced with embombing fluid. Honey I'm sorry you lost you Mom. I can tell you love her with your whole heart. That wont stop EVER.But with out blood in your body there is no way she could still be alive. Your Mom is in Heaven with God . She can see you. She will always be in your heart. You will see her again. You will be with her again. It is all in Gods time. I was mad at God for a very long time as I'm sure you are. If you want proof look up imbombing. Find out how there is no way your Mom is stll alive. I wanted to dig my Grandad up just to see for myself. It took talking to a Doctor and having what happens to your body when you die explaned to stop the nightmares. It will take some time. But belive me when I tell you My dreams and thoughts did stop. I just lost my Brother two weeks ago. I was with him when he passed away. I knew he had left his body. He was in heaven before I let go of his hand. It was very peacefull. I hope this helps you. And know you are not alone in feeling the way you do. Give yourself time and talk to your Doctor about your Mom's body.
2007-11-17 18:33:59 · answer #3 · answered by leatherlace 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't follow thru with these thoughts! I had a stillborn baby a few years ago and I snapped. The last thing I remember was sitting in my house, all of a sudden I was in a padded room and I was told by a shrink that I was found by cemetery security sitting by her grave, her little casket tossed to the side, and I was holding her and rocking her.....
2007-11-17 18:30:42 · answer #4 · answered by the Vampire Claudia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's not dead sweetie she's in your heart right? People come and go. Just remember all the good times you had with your mom and cherish them. Im really sorry about your loss.
To people who have moms:
Treat your moms with respect. Because you never know when that day comes and she goes. You never know what you had until it leaves. Trust me I grew up without a mom, It's tuff for me and people who don't have moms not to celebrate Mother's Day. You guys are lucky. Don't hit your mom, don't yell at them just because they made a small mistake by not picking you up from school, etc. If they make simple mistakes who cares! The world isn't going to end. They try their best so you can have a better life than them. Love them treat and them right.
2007-11-17 17:58:49 · answer #5 · answered by Vanessa. 1 · 7⤊ 0⤋
my mother passed away a couple of years ago also; although i'm 39 now...i still miss her very much. i, too was in denial about her passing, but i feel that God has plans for each and everyone of us; that's all there is to it.
i think your thoughts are coming from your subconscience mind.
i think some of us need to vent after losing someone close to us. maybe u could talk to a professional (therapist) or just someone that will really listen and understand. maybe they could give you some great advice. good luck & God Bless
2007-11-17 20:33:04 · answer #6 · answered by sanfranmother_415 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with kittywink you should talk to someone even if it isn't a doctor getting these feelings out might help. I am very very sorry you lost your mom.
I lost someone too, and I have thought about her in the grave and want to throw up. I want to remember her the way she was, small and beautiful.
don't ever forget your mother, what a horrible suggestion.
2007-11-17 17:58:24 · answer #7 · answered by Shadow Kat 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-30 23:35:20 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok let me be real with you becauze thats all i can be - ok ?
first off your first stage in death is denial _ you understand ? no one wants to believe some one they care about or even worse some one they love is dead, it took me 7 years to acknowledge a very good friend of mines death. it took me that long to accept that my friend wasnt going to be there for me - so i had to be there for him! angels fall before they fly, never ask why your mother had to leave - only god knows - but remeber her - what would her body be to you > to me a body is just a carcass - we made that body come to life - that body did not create our soul - we could not create that soul - that soul is just that a soul - an essence of your mother - when it rains and it your face on your right hand cheek - feel good your mother kissed you !
2007-11-17 18:25:25 · answer #9 · answered by imissmahboo 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
So you go there tonight in your dreams and you dig her up and you see for yourself she has passed. And you believe it.And the part of you that is obsessive becomes resolved and the thoughts you keep having leave your head.And when you wake up from your sleepy dreams very sleepy dreams deep down and resolve your obsessive thoughts now ......You will wake up refreshed and safe with your own thoughts that feel good too you.
2007-11-17 17:58:39 · answer #10 · answered by China Preggo 1 · 1⤊ 4⤋
My mom died 3 years ago, but I know she's, well, gone because she was cremated.
2007-11-17 18:30:19 · answer #11 · answered by Snakecrack76 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋