I am married, I had 2 kids by a previous relationship. He cant seem to let go. I gave him a chance I told him either he get a job or dont come back. He chose not to come back, but make my life hell. This asshole does nothing for the kids in about 5 years he has paid 1 year of support. He has told my 8 year old now to set us on fire, and he has tried several times. The last time was when he was 5. He is always calling the police and telling them that he wants them to come over and check on the kids because I am doing something to them. And calling children services on me for no reason.The thing is is this is aloud by the law. Because everytime someone calls they have to check it out. He also has filled custody suits about 5 times. This is harrassment . I have called lawyers and the police to ask why do I have to just sit and take this. I get no justice. my husband blames me. I havent done enough to stop this ,then we argue. what can I do to make this stop.
2007-11-17 17:05:04 · 5 answers · asked by Tomika Lowe 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
I even told the police when they came out what was happening and they said that rule 23 which is like the standard vistiation stuff. entitiles him to do that. I feel like he always has the upper hand and I can do nothing. Try having some friends over then next thing you know the police are at your door. PLUS we live in different cities. How can he have that much power and I am powerless. He has never been to jail for non payment of support. I'v tired. He hasnt even filed income taxes in 5 years because he knows that I would receive it. How lame is that. I just want all this to stop we havent been together in 6 years and he still just cant be a man and just take care of the kids. Be civil. This has taken such a toll on my marriage. My husband and I argue because this is still happening. He says i must still love him because I haven't done anything to stop this. I'v tried. I just dont know what to do. Please help!
2007-11-17 17:52:58 · update #1
First read up on what his rights are. Once you learn the rules of the game you can turn it against him. I would try a restraining order. Go the the police and continue to make reports of physical threats. Keep the reports stacking up against him. Hopefully the LAW will work in your favor before something serious happens.....Good Luck!
2007-11-17 17:13:13 · answer #1 · answered by golfserv2001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need an attorney or a new one if you already do. You could sue him for back child support. He could be jailed or at the very least have his drivers license suspended. He could get in trouble with the IRS and have to give you that money...... or if he owes on taxes the interest could be phenominal.
A judge could order him to only have supervised visits. He could lose any custody........ he is not paying. Your son could testify about the burning thing. The judge can do many, many things. But you have to have an agressive lawyer.
Your ex has mentioned that you have done nothing to stop him so he knows that you could do something to him. But he figures that he has your number and will not agressively pursue this.
2007-11-18 11:43:13 · answer #2 · answered by jackson 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a restraining order on him and don't allow the children to see him anymore without supervision.
2007-11-18 02:25:48 · answer #3 · answered by David G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get an attorney. You won't get any help without one. You don't have to sit and take it. You CAN stop him. Make your attorney do something or get a new attorney.
2007-11-18 01:19:16 · answer #4 · answered by cyanne2ak 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all.... this so sounds like white trash central. second of all..... hmmm... i guess there is no second point.
2007-11-18 01:09:05 · answer #5 · answered by Shawn P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋