Are our attitudes about feminism significantly influenced by the quality of our parent's relationship?

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What factors in your childhood may be responsible for the beliefs you have concerning the role of women in society?

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Answer 1

in all cases we are significantly influenced in many ways by the quality of our parent's relationships. But i think feminism is just a small part of what we take in as there is so much, unless a parent continually harps on it, that seems to be what sticks the most with kids. But i find feminism, if one gets into it heavily, dies out quite a bit, as life goes on, when the weights of life, marriage, kids, home, jobs, financial responsibility's, one really hasn't got the time nor mind space for it. The same goes for your "role of women in society", much like the "role of men in society" ppl don't really care, their priority's have changed greatly, they do what they need and want to do. Take care of what desperately needs done in the big rush to hold themselves and family together, along with trying to suddenly, worry about old age long before they get there. I mean, that's all a big deal when your, young, single, full of optimism, ready to take on the whole world by yourself. But once you've tried running your own life plus 2,3,4, others, feminism itself is long forgotten.

Answer 2

Congress, mainly the Democrat majority Congress historically. Clinton had a balanced budget because of he Republicn majority Congress which he worked with. Obama just blames Republicans for everything. He leads into the abyss. Now, with Harry Reid, Senate Majority Leader, refusing to discuss many bills that come from the House, and no budget under Obama from 2009 until this year, the spending is insane. A democrat budget trick is to call an increase over the previous year's budget The baseline. The Stimulus is still in the budget every year. Everything stays in, but isn't used for the same things. That's their play money to woo voters or pay off contributors.

Answer 3

The quality of their relationship....I don't know about that, but I think they are definitely influenced by our parents attitudes and actions.

My attitude towards equality comes from my mother's attitude while I was growing up much more than any other parent. (I have two step-parents as well.) She always encouraged me to do/be anything....in fact, I do not recall anyone telling me that I couldn't do something because I was a female during my childhood or young adult life.

Through my mother's actions however, she showed me that being home with me was her priority, above her other interests and career. Regardless of how she felt about the things I could achieve or attain, she still took care of all the household chores and was a very traditional mother and wife in that sense.

In my home I find myself being very similar. I (like my mother) have a college education. I chose to be home when my children are home. I do most of the home making and kid care. The biggest difference is that my husband is a very hands-on Dad and loves to cook. I don't ever recall my father or step-Dad doing any of my caretaking, and in some ways I think I picked my husband because he was such a hands-on father. (he had kids when I met him)

Answer 4

You are right upto some extent. The environment in which we are raised determines our attitudes but its not only parents its also the media nowadays and other factors such as school, collages and curriculum that determines our attitude.Women are not same the world over they play different roles at different places. In some developing countries they are still under veils whereas in developed countries they are more independent. So basically our views depend on the place we live.

Answer 5

Let me put this way, I surprise myself that I'm not a butch woman who doesn't shave my armpits, wearflannel shirts and farts and burps in public. My dad RULED the house..(Air Force at work and home) If he decided to be late comin' home and not call, my mom would calmly heat and reheat dinner. When he decide to shout orders, my mom would run around like a subservient slave with her two daughters following in suit. My father also love to get quick feels of his daughters breasts, which mom ignored. (I swear my breasts never grew out of retaliation!)....but after years of becoming a rather bossy young woman due to those factors and swearing I'd never be my mom, I came to a quite happy even keel within myself. I'm strong, still kinda bossy, but embrace my feminine side and love being a woman. And got a boob job that daddy don't dare "think" about touchin'!

Answer 6

In my case, the way I was brought up definitely influenced my later-in-life concerns about women in society. But not because of my parent's relationship to each other but rather because of the way they raised me and my brother without assigning the traditional-for-the-times gender roles to helping out in the family. (We're talking the 40s and 50s.)

Both my mom and dad lost their mothers when they were extremely young and they grew up with no female role models in their lives. To them, it was normal to teach their boy and girl to do any and every thing around the house because they both did every thing as they were growing up. Chores were 'family' chores, not male or female chores.

When I got to college it was quite a shock to find out I wasn't allowed to take many courses because I was a woman.

Answer 7

Parents are just people. I think I realized that pretty young and didnt really have a need for a role model... so an interest in developing awareness, of science and history mostly as data to form a picture of an overal reality... devoid of individual's bias, to hopefully minimize my own.

Answer 8

I definitely think that the models that we grew up with as children affect us in both positive and negative ways. There is data that suggests that women and men who grow up with both parents working have more nontraditional views on gender roles.

In my own case, both of my parents worked and my mother encouraged me to not let my gender hold me back from doing anything that I wanted to do.

As a result of my upbringing, when I have children, I plan on working outside the home, too.

Answer 9

The single most important person in my life was my late grandmother.
Incredibly bright and articulate woman.
My interest in literature came from her as she was blind, so I read to her daily.
She told wonderful stories.
My grandfather was from Southern Ireland.
He was very special too.
He told me stories of when he was a boy growing up in Southern Ireland.
Wonderful times.

Answer 10

No I don't think so - my attitudes are way more influenced by my Catholic beliefs. Now I see that feminism is losing ground again with the younger generation that are the daughters of the original feminists. I personally don't think feminism really worked out well for some women - but for men it was a godsend!