i am not speaking about married men or such but just boyfriends. is this behaviour really that big of a problem? the persons involved arent that emotionally attached, they simply enjoy the sex quite much with one another!
2007-11-17 16:13:38 · 25 answers · asked by goldcharm 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
To: "dr.shorty"... dont tell me its not okay to "use" people. the ONLY reason we form relationships in this world is to "use" ppl...whether we are using them for sex, to confide in, to feel some love, or just to make our lives seem like it has a purpose.
2007-11-17 16:25:00 · update #1
furthermore, i did state that this situation doesnt involve MYSELF...altho i dont necessarily see anything wrong with the lifestyle which is why i asked this question.
2007-11-17 16:29:23 · update #2
As long as there is not an exclusivity and everyone understands where this is all leading to (or not leading to), then go for it.
Personally, I couldn't do anything like that
2007-11-17 16:20:05 · answer #1 · answered by Experto Credo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure if I'm reading what you wrote right , but I look at the other woman and see the pain that one might cause if she were to find out, and if I were the other woman I would have no self respect for doing such a thing to a couple, even though he's just as bad. Exspecially if its just for sex, cause there is 10 million and 1 ways to find that without haveing to hurt someone in the process. And there's about another million single men out there that would just do it for the sex and once again with out hurting someone in the process. Put it this way... how would you like it if you found someone and fell in love and this happened to you? the pain I mean. It really really sucks , I know cause it just happened to me.
2007-11-18 00:19:56 · answer #2 · answered by sunnydays 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
There are many problems.
1. Sex should be only within marriage, not between unmarried people.
2. Cheating usually involves lying. It means that the parties involved are not being up front with each other.
3. Sexual relations should be a sacred experience between a husband and wife who really love each other. People who are having sex but are not committed are really selling themselves short.
4. Just because the boyfriend is cheating does not mean that the girlfriend (the non-side girlfriend) thinks that is okay. It could be breaking her heart, and the side girlfriend is contributing to that.
5. The side girlfriend is also contributing to the trend in today's world that tells guys it's okay to cheat.
4. Having sex with a person just for sex's sake is using that person. And it's not right to use people, even if you're doing it to each other.
2007-11-18 00:18:52 · answer #3 · answered by drshorty 7 · 6⤊ 1⤋
To answer that question, think about how you would feel if you were in a 'committed' relationship and found out your boyfriend was sleeping around on the side. How would you feel about the other woman in that situation?
If you're comfortable being part of behavior that's gonna cause someone else that much pain (meaning the actual girlfriend), then feel free to be the other woman. If you don't believe in what goes around comes around, by all means continue on, but you may find yourself on the bad side of karma one day when you find someone you're head over heels for.
2007-11-18 00:24:09 · answer #4 · answered by abrennan01 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Deceit is never right on any level. I can say that because I've been on both sides of this equation.
What's wrong with just finding someone of your own?
First off, fornication is wrong in God's eyes and he also says do unto others as you would have others do unto you. A commandment is love thy neighbor as thy self.
Sleeping with someone else's man is hurting that 3rd person. If the sex is so good between you two then that guy or girl should leave their gf/bf and be in a sexual relationship with that other person.
But to be the person on the side says, "I'm easy, I don't love myself, and I don't care about anyone else feelings..."
2007-11-18 00:19:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hey!
You are a HUMAN being, not some female cat in heat!
Sex without a commitment of some sort is nothing better than acting like an animal in heat.
Leave other guys alone!
Find the ONE MAN and marry him and sex will be so much better!
2007-11-18 00:17:10 · answer #6 · answered by WhatAmI? 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Drshorty, don't listen to this a** U are 100% correct. Don't ask the question if you're not willing to accept other's opinions. YOu're just looking for someone to tell you that it's fine and see how many people agree with you. >{
Plus you never know, the person could have some emotional attatchment to them and they're lying to you.
2007-11-18 00:44:23 · answer #7 · answered by glitter glue 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh great just casual sex...HUH?
That's really shallow, for starters....what happens if the casual sex results in pregnancy or disease?
What about dignity? Is it really satisfying being used for sex??? That's acting like an animal. What about the girlfriend..is it fair to her???
EDIT:
This is rather sick minded and selfish...you said, "dont tell me its not okay to "use" people. the ONLY reason we form relationships in this world is to "use" ppl...whether we are using them for sex, to confide in, to feel some love, or just to make our lives seem like it has a purpose."
I suppose you'd agree with the rediculous staement, "hookers do it for money, wives do it for refrigerators"???
I certainly didn't marry my wife to "use" her...I married her because I love her and wanted to be able to do things FOR her (not me), for the rest of our lives. I give her refrigerators because I love her, not as payment to "do it". She doesn't "do it" to get refrigerators...she knows she'll get the refrigerator anyway...because I love her.
2007-11-18 00:20:32 · answer #8 · answered by Kenneth 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
yeah multiple partners are great arent they. no strings, no guilt
sexual gratification at its finest. and oh! the sexually transmitted diseases are simply fabulous. yeah to heck with just one partner let's catch multiple s*** that doctors cannot cure. you did say boyfriends-plural. hope you dont catch anything .Personally i wouldnt want a woman with your attitude about casual sex. ah well enough of my preaching-you do what you want. I have been with same woman for 16 years disease free i might add. well, happy humpin....
2007-11-18 00:22:11 · answer #9 · answered by molly 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you're cool with it, and your behavior isn't hurting another person, then go on and keep having the great sex! Having sex with someone that is attached to another is downright selfish though, and you should think about how much the other person would be hurt if they were to find out!
2007-11-18 00:17:17 · answer #10 · answered by Marina 7 · 2⤊ 3⤋