I just wanted to know should me and my daughter father work thing knowing that we haven't seen each other in a minute.Im still in love with him.He hurted me so bad by tell me that he was going to be back with his ex
2007-11-17 15:02:30 · 8 answers · asked by Derrickwifey 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
At this point, you need to do what's best for your child first. Take him to court to establish paternity. That way he can't later deny he's her father. Once that's done, get a judgment for child support. Make sure he takes care of her financially.
As far as your feelings for him, what has he done to maintain those emotions? He's been denying your child for 9 months and broke up with you to get back with an ex. I wouldn't trust him with my heart if I were you. If he says he wants to be a family, let him know that he has to prove himself worthy of being in your life. He needs to show you by his actions that he has changed. In the meantime, you need to take things slowly. Don't become intimate with him again until he has regained your trust.
2007-11-17 15:20:27 · answer #1 · answered by Ki 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aawww, thats a sad situation. I'm sorry your in it. The boyfriend seemslike a heartless man. If he really cared he would have been there during pregnancy and birth! I say file for patrnity, child support and give him visitation. You need to leave him. You'll probally always love him, he is the father of your baby. That doesnt mean you should stay together. You can do better anyway without the stress of his actions. You and your CHILD deserve better.
2007-11-18 04:27:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find out if he's really the baby's father. Honey, any man who'd run out on you when you're pregnant and say the baby wasn't his (that must mean you're a slut), isn't the kind of dad you want for your child, and isn't the kind of husband you want to live with. Turn your back on him and find someone who cares about both you and the baby.
TX Mom
2007-11-17 23:23:09 · answer #3 · answered by TX Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if at all possible both parents should be together to raise their children. However, at this time I think you need to step back and concentrate on just you and your daughter. Remember you hava a child now and if you guys get back together and their is tension, your baby is going to know. Remember that sometimes the man we want is not always the man we need.
2007-11-17 23:08:04 · answer #4 · answered by NWFLGIRL 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope...if he's willing to hurt you that badly at a time when you need the most support he's not worth going after. You're a mom now and need to focus all of your energy on being strong and healthy (physically, mentally & emotionally) for your daughter. File for support but if he was willing to deny her while you were pregnant there's no reason to drag both of you through being denied for the rest of her life.
2007-11-17 23:13:24 · answer #5 · answered by Sparks 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ID FIGURE IF HE WANTED TO BE THERE DURING THE WHOLE NINE MONTHS, HE WOULD, AND SINCE I DONT PUT MY LIFE ON HOLD FOR ANY MAN, AND CERTAINLY I WOULD NOT CHASE HIM, BUT FOR THE SIMPLE FACT THAT HE HURT ME. WOULD BE ENOUGH NOT TO TAKE HIM BACK, THERE IS NOT ENOUGH LOVE IN THE WORLD FOR ME TO BE AT SOMEONES BECK AND CALL. GIRL, STOP BEING WEAK !!!
2007-11-18 00:54:06 · answer #6 · answered by Blackfirefly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost ... file for child support!
Whether he wants to be in the babies life or not, that's a whole other battle!
2007-11-17 23:05:44 · answer #7 · answered by Mommy of One 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Time for the DNA test. <}:-})
2007-11-17 23:09:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋