I have been married for 7 years to a wonderful guy,but I recently found an old boyfriend on classmates and we have been e mailing each other and IMing each other,there is nothing going on except friendship,so should I tell my husband that I am talking to this guy over the computer?
2007-11-17 14:10:10 · 17 answers · asked by flavagirl 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
People,I have only been talking to him for about a week.
2007-11-17 14:17:41 · update #1
tell him everything, never keep any secret from your other half.
2007-11-17 14:56:15 · answer #1 · answered by not fair 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to tell your husband because you should stop what you are doing. Both you and I know your intentions are not purely Platonic. E-mailing each other once or twice a year to share family photos is okay, but nothing beyond that. You know what you are trying to do. Create a little spark, add some color into your overly content married life. Girlfriend...you are very lucky to have a stable marriage and a wonderful husband. Don't do anything to ruin it. Because what you are doing now is very dangerous. Stop it before you get too deep and throw your marriage away.
2007-11-17 14:19:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
In my opinion I think you should tell your husband. The reason I think you should tell him is because if you are married I think you should have a honest relationship. So in my opinion I think you should tell him since nothing is happening between you and your old boyfriend, but I can't say he want get mad at you. It just depends on your husband because some will be like ok that cool, but others might be like why do you want to get back with him, but it really does depend on your husband.
2007-11-17 14:19:39 · answer #3 · answered by Boy Crazyy (: 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are married and when your married chatting and all that other stuff, is not included. So yea you are wrong because your going behind your beloved husband to talk to an old fling. So your starting a web Of BULL***** That can be prevented. So if you don't want your husband talking to his old flings or women all together, then watch what you do. Remember the Devil COMES IN ALL DIFFERENT SHAPES, FORMS AND FASHIONS, So PROTECT YOUR MARRIAGE. IS THIS OTHER MAN WORTH YOUR MARRIAGE?? AND IF YOU AND HIM ARE JUST FRIENDS, WHY IN THE HELL ARE YOU SO SCARED TO TELL YOUR HUSBAND??? Dosent make sense to me, but only you Knows...
2007-11-17 14:38:37 · answer #4 · answered by T 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, you should tell your husband. You had feeling for this old boyfriend at one point in your life, right? To me, you asking this question tells us that you think that you're doing something wrong. Think about it this way, if your husband was talking to one of his old girlfriends online for a week, and he didn't tell you, would you be upset? Probably. Give him the respect he deserves and tell him.
2007-11-17 14:24:17 · answer #5 · answered by LilyRose_69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not only should you tell your husband that you have rekindled an old friendship, you should also offer to include him in it. That way your husband will have no doubts whatsoever that there really is nothing going on beyond friendship.
2007-11-17 14:34:13 · answer #6 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you talking to an old boyfriend? and HECK YES!!! Don;t hide it, unless there is a reason to. Think of it this way, what if it was him talking to an old girlfriend, and he didn't tell you about it and you found out on your own. It would be like he was keeping it secret for a reason.
2007-11-17 14:14:39 · answer #7 · answered by darlin 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should stop talking to this guy altogether. I can only imagine how your husband is going to feel when he finds out.
Besides, I find it hard to believe all it is is a friendship if you have been hiding this from him all this time.
Be your husband's wife and leave your ex's out of your life out of respect for your husband and your marriage.
2007-11-17 14:15:25 · answer #8 · answered by az_mommma 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Those that have nothing to hide will hide nothing...I think you should tell him....
It doesn't matter if you have been talking to him for 24 hours or 24 months...you should be honest with your husband....
2007-11-17 14:12:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell him....the reason? If you don't have any ententions, on getting with him it shouldn't be a problem.
If you husband is the jelious type, then F**k it!! You will never be able to satify insecurity.....
2007-11-17 14:17:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah i think you should tell him, if you're honest with him he'll trust you. If he finds out you've been keeping it secret he may not trust you.
2007-11-17 14:19:41 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋