well im 21 and she is 26 and we kinda have diff views on when she wants to have kids and when i want
i atleast want to wait a few till i finish school
but shes gonna be 29 by then and ill be 24
but i want to see ppl's opinion about this b/c i want to finish school and she wants to take the next step
she told me she wants to have one bf she turns 28 ....money isnt a prob just is going to be alot of things for me ....school job my wife and the baby (if we do)
idk what i should do i do want to have kids with her but im kinda not in the place so if anyone could give me some guidance or advise in what i should do so we both get what we want
she finished shool 3 yrs ago so im like a bit back behind her
2007-11-17 14:05:34 · 8 answers · asked by some nerd 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
WAIT!!!! When I was about 23, my fiance wanted to try to have children before we even got married. I told him that I was not ready and I wanted to finish school (I was a little behind as well). Thanks for my decision, I finished school and I am happily married to someone else and just had my first baby at 30 and I do not feel old and I am very glad that I got to live my life and waited to start a family. It was the best decision I have ever made :)
2007-11-17 14:27:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having a baby is just like getting married. It takes two to do it. If you are not ready then your wife should respect that. If you think you will be ready by the time she is 29, it's not late. It's not late for women to have babies before they are 35. Many even have babies after they are 35 and sometimes after they are 40. Okay, 40 might be pushing it but 29 to 30 is definitely not too late.
2007-11-17 22:13:13 · answer #2 · answered by Jessica C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are still very very young....you should wait until you are finished with school...that will be one less thing to worry about....Does she think she will be an old maid at 29? People are waiting longer these days to begin a family..
BTW...I just had my 4th child 11 months ago at the age of 40...and without any complications....
2007-11-17 22:11:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do NOT have a child until YOU are ready. And make sure you use a condom each and every time you have sex with her, because her heavy-handed tactics make me worry that she might conveniently "forget" the pill or pull some other fast stunt on you.
2007-11-17 22:39:30 · answer #4 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let her rush you do what you feel in your heart is right and trust me rushing to grow up is not one of them finish school if she does not respect how you feel then she can go and get knocked up and trap someone else because that means she did'nt reLLY LOVE YOU!!!!
2007-11-17 22:10:21 · answer #5 · answered by Conteplative 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me..that you and your wife are having more problems than this...I think you two should rethink this relationship before you bring a child into it.. You sound a bit immature..and she seems to have her life planned...Mercy you are already whining.
2007-11-17 22:21:11 · answer #6 · answered by wilma s 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Master the complexity of English grammar and the the difficulty of the spell check before you have children.
Good luck.
2007-11-17 22:11:16 · answer #7 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
if she has finished school and is where she wants to be financialy and with you then yes you should not hesitate to have a family now .............
2007-11-17 22:13:24 · answer #8 · answered by jess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋