do young marriages last ?

Question

On 10/28/2006 I married my junior high school sweet heart, whom I love dearly . However, before we were married she caught me cheating and was really withdrawn and didnt want to ever see me again. After we chatted about everything i wanted to make her happy. She told me in order for her to stay she would have to be married because girlfriends dont put up with a year long worth of drama that i caused our relationship. I've always planned on marrying her anyway but now that a full year has past and things ar great i often find her researching young married couple dilemas and if they do last until "death do you part". Will we last? Im a 23 year college graduate and she is 22 years old attending med school. She was raisedin a single parent home and I come from a very stable two parent home. And ill admit I do speak to some of the girls in the past.Is this healthy ? Cause i believe we can have a wonderful life together. Im just concerned with all of the "young married couples dont make it

Answer 1

If you are the luckiest person in the world she will forgive you.

So tell me. Do you feel lucky punk. Well do you?

Answer 2

When you're young, you have no idea of who YOU are yet.....so how can you pick a compatible partner??? Your younger years should be spent traveling and meeting people, trying new things, finding out who you are! Many young people get together and then find out years later, that they have "grown apart." Very painful, but also very natural. My advice would be not to get married until you are at least 28-30, otherwise there are gonna be alot of things that you will regret NOT having the freedom to do!

Answer 3

Your marriage will last if you are both the following: Open to eachother, Honest, and willing to change. By change I mean that you can bend for her when needed and she for you. That you both do not cheat. See chatting to females that you were in an intimate relationship and her with a male. will only hurt you. Do the right thing and make each other happy, always do things together and for each other that will keep the sparks flying; Really honesty is best. Good luck

Answer 4

You will last. Here is how: talk talk talk. Talk about EVERYTHING. Of course, once in a while you both need to get away for a nice trip somewhere. Everytime you come back, make a nice "traditional" photo album. Time passes by so quickly. Cherish your life together. The younger you are, the more albums you will have :)

Answer 5

It depends not on the age of the person but the maturity. If both of you can still see the person you married, then you will be fine.

It is my personal belief that the #1 reason why young marriages don't last is because of the unforeseen change in their partners character.

But here's what some site had to say:
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1) Lack of trust; the number one reason that couples get divorced. The answer to this dilemma is humor and validation. Do something every day for your spouse to show them that they are the only one for you. Deescalate the situation with humor, but not sarcasm. Women tend to begin to feel that they aren't attractive to their husbands after the first child is born; men tend to feel they aren't as attractive as they get older. If you keep vigilant for these warning signs, you need never worry that your marriage will end up as a negative statistic.

2) Lack of communication; this could easily be number one, as it is the most important aspect of your marriage. Many times marriages tend to settle down after the first two to three years, and the long walks and talks give way to yelling reminders to each other as you leave for work. "Don't forget to pick up the kids!" replaces " how can we spend some time together." And don't forget the villain, silence. Just because you know what she's going to say doesn't mean that you shouldn't talk about it anyway.

3) Marrying too soon; this is one of the top three of why marriages fail for a reason. Often, usually because people don't want to live out their lives lonely and panic. Please, get to know your intended as well as possible before popping the question. While there are instances and stories of young lovers marrying soon after meeting and those marriages lasting a lifetime, the truth is that most do not.

4) Fear of Intimacy; this problem is also along the lines that believing if you marry someone it will change them, or that if you only love them "enough" things will work out. If either of you have fear of intimacy issues, work them out in therapy or couples counseling before you get engaged. This is one of the reasons that people of religious faith often recommend pre-marriage counseling for young couples.

5) Unrealistic Expectations; this rates number five because it is so easy to fix. When two people are in love, the saying "Love is blind" is usually true. The answer is clear communication before you get engaged as to what each of you expects out of the institution of marriage. For instance, if the two of you are realistically going to need to work in order to provide for the household, it is equally unrealistic for her to expect to be provided for while she stays home to run the house as it is for him to insist that no wife of his is going to work. It is also unrealistic to think that marrying someone will change them."

Answer 6

why would you still be talking to these other girls!? thats so disrespectful. do not do this to her. She is already hurt from coming from a single parent hom and she doesnt deserve to be played like this by the person she probably loves the most. to give you another chance, you are lucky, dont take advantage of it! maybe if you treat her with respect and dont cheat on her, your marriage would last

Answer 7

They can. It takes a lot of work. My parents have been married almost thirty years, they got married when my mother was 18 my dad was 19. I got married at 18 my husband and I have been together almost 6 years. It isn't easy, but it can work if you both want it to work.

Answer 8

Majority were failures. The reason is simple. Lack of maturity of their minds to handle their respective obligations. Lack of finacial stability because both did not finished college degree hardly found a better jobs to sustain their basic necessity.

Answer 9

my wife and i have been together for 11yrs, we got married when i was 20 and she was 18, i cant say it has been easy, it takes alot of work!!!! the most important part of your relationship is communication! no matter what it is you have to tell her whats buggin you and the other way around too. without communicating with your partner she doesnt know whats in your head and you dont know whats in hers, you can see that one another may be bothered by something but if you dont talk it may blow up in your face. you both are yrs ahead of us neither one of us has had the chance to go to college and may not ever be able to as well.

Answer 10

Depends on the people. My parents married right after college, and even now they're still together and their marriage is strong.

Answer 11

The trust is something that u lost when u cheated on her. It's going to be a tough road and the temptaion to cheat will always be there.