Married for 3 yrs. I knew when we married that he had some anxiety issues and he wasn't always comfortable in social situations. After we got married, he started to deteriorate. He lost his job and didn't work for 6 months. He would become depressed and suicidal. I encouraged him to get help and he would go to a doctor appointment, but never follow through with additional appointments or take any medication. We worked through it with marriage counseling and tried to make the best of it. We decided to start a family. He became more depressed and told me (after we had been trying for a few weeks) that he didn't want kids. After I had the baby, he got worse and one day told me that he has been hallucinating for 10 yrs. (but never told me before.) He kept other things from me as well (ex. how much $ he spent on things.) I gave him an ultimatum: get help or I will get a divorce. He refused help and moved out the next day. Now says he wants to work things out. Should I divorce him?
2007-11-17 13:53:29 · 5 answers · asked by jen19music 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If he is not willing to take the steps to take care on the problem then yes, divorce him.
He needs to come to the realization on his own that he needs help. I am sorry, but you cannot help him.
Good luck. I will pray for you.
2007-11-17 13:57:37 · answer #1 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not for divorce but your husband has some serious mental problems and refuses to seek help. A red flag went up for me when you wrote of his behavior after you had a baby. I am wondering if with his problems he should really be around a child. A child needs to be protected...So I would say you really need to get a divorce and move you and your child far away from him since HE chooses not to seek out help of any kind. Good luck
2007-11-17 22:11:34 · answer #2 · answered by wilma s 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you married him for better or for worse but this would be very hard .............. not saying it would be easy but you did take the right steps to help him help him self............. as long as he sticks to his meds and goes to the appointments then i would give him a second chance............ after about 3 solid months of being on his own and showing you he can stick to it ................ i wish you good luck
2007-11-17 22:00:11 · answer #3 · answered by jess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have already told him ...so stick to your guns. You don't want to raise a depressed child. whom never needs to see the depression of the father.
2007-11-17 22:09:54 · answer #4 · answered by ~just_jd~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would
2007-11-17 21:57:28 · answer #5 · answered by angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋