My husband has to work on Thanksgiving, so we are going to have a small Thanksgiving at home, but we usually go to his Family's get together, or my Family's thing. This year it is his Family's turn, but he is not going. His mother wants me to go to there's, but my Mother wants me to go to my Family's, since my husband's not comming anyways.
Should I ditch my in laws to go to the one I really want to, or should I stick with the tradition? Either way, someone's going to be upset.
2007-11-17 13:35:13 · 11 answers · asked by Ferosia 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Thanksgiving
They are too far away from eachother to go to both.
2007-11-17 14:04:13 · update #1
My advice, go where you want to go! I used to try and make everybody happy at the holidays, and that usually doesn't happen. If you want to go to your family, then go to your family! If your in-laws get upset, believe me they will get over it. You can always have a dinner with the in-laws another day. This year my mother-in-law has to work on Thanksgiving, so we are having their dinner the following Sunday and my family on Thanksgiving. Whatever you decide, DON'T STRESS! It's your day to be thankful, too, so relax!
2007-11-17 14:51:31 · answer #1 · answered by Alena M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thanksgiving drama stinks, and so do rigid traditions about who to visit. Use this situation as opportunity to stop the madness and stop the obligation to have to go to anybody's house for Thanksgiving. Don't go to anybody's Thanksgiving dinner. Stay home and just have a nice day with your own family. Then, since you broke the pattern this year, you will have freedom to break it again next year, and then you will never be under this obligation again and forever will be able to have your own dinner. You will be happier, your husband will be happier, and if you are inclined, you can use the day to help those who are less fortunate than you-which is impossible if you are running around trying to please the inlaws.
2007-11-17 23:02:48 · answer #2 · answered by Jennifer B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, if they are too far away then stay at home and wait for hubby to get off and enjoy Thanksgiving at home. Tell mom and mother in law you feel uncomfortable leaving him without family for Thanksgiving. Let them know next year you'll be on track, but one will see you for one holiday (EASTER possibly) and the other one would see you for the another holiday (Christmas ?). Enjoy and Happy Thanksgiving.
2007-11-17 22:42:54 · answer #3 · answered by Jameelah H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you have already planned. Just explain to both mothers that you both have to work and don't feel like driving to one or the other and you have already planned on your own little thanksgiving this year, maybe next year or maybe even for christmas you will go.
2007-11-18 06:26:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your mother in law that hubby so you both will not be able to make it. Go to your moms. Lets face it, you want to go to your family and your husband is working and you will be alone. Your mother in law only needs to know her son is working and you will see her another day.
2007-11-20 15:22:56 · answer #5 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay home so you're hubby can have a Thanksgiving meal waiting for him when he gets home.....I can't see how either Mom can not understand that....why should Hubby miss out because he has to work.......and that way both Moms can't say one was favored over the other.....Good Luck
2007-11-17 22:59:47 · answer #6 · answered by The Original GarnetGlitter 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes someone will be upset, so go with your family, just my thought.
Happy thanksgiving to You.
2007-11-18 08:56:09 · answer #7 · answered by kim t 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go to the one u want to go to. Its ur thanksgiving besides u can always go to his families for christmas instead.
2007-11-17 22:52:50 · answer #8 · answered by shorty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is a tough one, is there any way that you can go to both?
if not, then you should go to your family's and tell your in-laws that you and your husband will come over for dinner when he is available
2007-11-17 21:43:50 · answer #9 · answered by krazykatmeow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have dinner with your family and then have dessert and coffee with the in-laws
2007-11-17 22:42:23 · answer #10 · answered by Sue R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋