my husband isnt in love with me any more and i believe he has found someone else i even told him we can put whatever he has done in the past and move on but he says he dont think its possible for us to move on because we argue to much i think that is an excuse considering we argue because he cheats and lies what am i to do and we have only been married a little over a year
2007-11-17 13:20:56 · 28 answers · asked by wake up 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Love yorself enough to let him go. You deserve better. You are worth it. Good luck.
2007-11-17 13:28:31 · answer #1 · answered by onparadisebeach 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is fall out of love, and don't want to works things out. What is the reason for you to hang on. If he found someone else already, you are just a safety tube for him when thing don't go well with the other person. Move on. Better hurt now then later. Spend years together and find out he is doing something behind your back. Do you really do that? For such a short time you two are married. It is telling you that he doesn't value the relationship between you two.. You should be still in your honeymoon mood at this time. Well, think hard and don't waste your time with someone who don't love you. Someone special out there looking for you too. Right place and right time, your true love will be there.
2007-11-17 13:31:12 · answer #2 · answered by wm43552000 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is impossible to continue a relationship if you aren't both into making it work. He has clearly shown that he is unfaithful and the trust has gone. You are probably too nice to him and that's why he thinks he can get away with it. You want someone to love you back as much as you love them. Sadly but i think he may be seeing someone else and that's why he is so keen not to make it work.
Keep your head up and work on building your self esteem up. You seem like a lovely lady that just hasn't found the right soulmate. Sometimes it's better to wipe the slate clean and find a new person that will respect you and not want to see you upset...Please be strong and move on...Have some friends around you at this time, it will help with the pain. Good luck and keep your head high!
2007-11-17 13:30:15 · answer #3 · answered by Honey 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know it hurts but there is not a thing u can do. his excuses are so lame and the usual thing a man says when he has found someone else he likes better for the moment. maybe there wouldn't be the arguing if she weren't in his life. but u can't change him, and should not beg him or say what he has done doesn't matter. is this the man u want to trust with your heart, and future? when he is saying to u he can't be with u anymore, its not due to the arguing, its due to the other woman and not about any arguing. been there done that, got the same lame excuse. accept it and don't look back. abandonment hurts alot, especially for the one left who doesn't want the separation. but this man sounds incapable of being emotionally responsible or worthy of your love. don't let his rejection bury u, just accept it, go through the grief, join a grief group, meet new people, let them help u and be supportive. but never beg a man to love u or come home, just hurts your dignity. this is not about anything u did, he just decided to cheat on u and disrespect u, and its easier to blame it on u than to take responsibility for himself.
2007-11-17 13:31:48 · answer #4 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry that you are having to go through this ,especially so soon into your marriage,1 yr. isn't very long at all for him to be saying that you argue to much, maybe he is cheating or possibly he feels he made a mistake getting married,either way you should not have to go through this so have a talk with him and stand your ground to find out what he wants and what you really want as well.
2007-11-17 13:29:14 · answer #5 · answered by lynette 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i hate to tell u this, but if he isn't interested, and he lies and cheats, u are better off without him. Here is a bit of advice: If u love someone , let them go, if they come back, they are yours. If they do not they were never meant to be yours. Painful, I know, I am there. I loved someone, even though Zi married a darn good man, but part of my heart will always be his. little over a year, huh?? was he faithful then? I truly hope so. i hope it all works out.
2007-11-17 13:24:54 · answer #6 · answered by Dragonflygirl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweety don't waste your life arguing & hoping he will change! I have been with a man since I was 16 years old & I do not love him but have basically wasted my life waiting on him and catering to his every need & whim! Now he is not well & I want out to make a new life & I feel guilty for even thinking of leaving him* So please think about your own happiness! Don't play second fiddle to someone else!
2007-11-17 15:07:13 · answer #7 · answered by Me 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Mam!! Why don't you read the book by Judge Judy Scheinlin ! I think she would refer to this guy as a loser. If he cheats during one year of marriage all he cares about is the next fulfillment of HIS desires. You aren't pregnant, you have no child by him. Be thankful. Find someone who will think well of you, will appreciate you as a person and thank your lucky stars it isn't worse. Get out of this marriage quickly, get a good lawyer and sue this bird for everything he has or will have for years to come. Clean his clock, Mam!!
2007-11-17 13:35:41 · answer #8 · answered by googie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, if your husband doesn't love you you should move on.
Plus if he cheats and lies, dont you think you can find someone better?
2007-11-17 13:26:33 · answer #9 · answered by anna 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't make someone do something they don't want to do.Give him space. The grass is not always greener on the other side. You need self respect and you should have to put up with lies and deceit. You deserve truth. I wish you well
2007-11-17 13:26:00 · answer #10 · answered by sweetcarolinagirl66 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont know how old you are, but from experience I can tell you its easier to let go than hold on to someone who wants to go. Life is way to short to waste time with someone who doesnt want you, and it doesnt sound like he does. Id say cut your losses now, start a new life!
2007-11-17 13:25:59 · answer #11 · answered by Debra C 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋