what's your view on teenage or young people getting married??

Question

is it a mistake?
justifiable as long as they 'love' each other?
plain stupid?
let me know your opinion. =]

Answer 1

I think people's minds .. thoughts .. desires .. and levels of being grown-up .. changes drastically during the young years.

For example .. a 13 year old .. probably will not think the same - like the same things .. have the same desires .. and will have out-grown many different phases .. by the time they reach even 16 years old.

Young love can be so passionate. And it can make a young person think that it is the only thing that they will ever want in life .. ever. Young persons do not realize LIFE itself. So it would be better to wait to a better age of maturity before getting married.

Answer 2

Young People from this Era, really are not prepared when they decide to get Married, for one, they are not Mature enough to handle the daily hassle. Second of all, If a baby is conceived and they were not ready to become Parents, the time and expense, consumed is something they were not ready for. I am not criticizing Teenage Marriages, some of them do survive all the odds, but the majority of them, do not. Sometimes they think that if their Mate, is not compatible to Her/Him, is when they want out of the marriage and when they find out that they were really not meant for each other,not taking into consideration, that taking a vow, is nothing really but the same as saying I do not like to wear this dress, or shirt, anymore. So, I would assume that sometimes it is a mistake on both parts, and when they want to be together, no matter the consequences, is when both of them should think Long and Hard about it, before taking that big Step.

Answer 3

It depends on the young person.

I am 17 years old, a junior biology student at a university (one year to my degree, YES!), I've been living on my own since I was 15, and I started dating my husband when I was 14. I come from a highly abusive background, I learned to live by my own means long ago. We married this year, and he's serving in Iraq right now. He's 22.

We're both very grown up, obviously. I'm almost to the point of having my career, going to med school (going to be a pathologist), and once he gets back from Iraq, he'll be going to school too. We are absolutely, positively in love, and we've gone through a lot of tough times, but we came out better for it. We have a very strong relationship, even while he's in a war.

I don't recommend it for any teen. It's hard, and it takes a lot of strength and maturity... my husband and I are very blessed to have found each other. I'm happy with my decision, and if it weren't for that whole Iraq thing, I would be absolutely ecstatic.

Answer 4

If I can make laws, I will sure that man and woman who need getting married must be screened to pass the marriage requirements such as;

1. At least 21 years old and has matured mind to have enough reason to handle obligations and responsibilities.

2. Have suffiscent educational qualification to find suitable jobs to feed his family. At least completed college degree.
3. No mental disorder.

4. Love? I don't know if man and woman fell in love without knowing to carry responsibilities and commitments if they can eat the love they feel forever and never been hungry for food. What I know is the love they feel now will fade as years go by, then what happened if the family already there? There were kids arounds? who would support these kids to grow up and schooling if there both parents are nonsense irresponsibles youth?

Answer 5

A bad choice. I got married in my early 20's which is not really considered young to most. But now that I am in my 30's , I wish that I had waited for more life experience. I f I knew then what I know now I would have NEVER gotten married. I think a teenager should take time to enjoy life. If you love some one and they truly love you, they can wait to marry.

Answer 6

It's a mistake because they don't realize that love isn't enough to keep a marriage together. That's also why the divorce rate among those under 25 is 95% or higher. It's just plain stupid for the parents to let their teenagers get married.

Answer 7

Talking from my own experience -I got married as a teen and had a baby before I turned 20- I'd say people change a whole lot as time goes by. Although I married a much older man, I saw myself changing and seeing things completely different as I started to mature. Based on my own experience I'd say marrying when you're still a teenager, is not at all a good idea...

Answer 8

Personal experience.....I married my first husband at 18....I thought we adored each other and would be married forever. 18 months later I was in the process of a divorce and pregnant with our second child. I believe that he and I were too young to really know that marriage was a lifetime commitment. Love sometimes isn't enough to keep a marriage together. There is nothing wrong with waiting a few years before making such a life altering commitment.

Answer 9

it is stupid!!! If they "love each other" then they should be willing to wait till they have grown up before getting married!!! You have to live your own life before you can live a married life!!! I was married at 18 and divorced by 22. I loved him and still love him i was young and dumb and didn't know how to handle life much less married life. I tell all young girls that just can't wait to get married to just stop and think if the guys loves you now and is willing to marry you now then when your older and out of college or on your own for awhile that if its meant to be he will still be there wanting to marry you then!!!

Answer 10

My opininon is that getting married young isn't a good idea. Some couples can make it work for awhile, but I have seen in the end, it doesn't last. You aren't mentall and emotionall mature enough to handle all of the things that go into a marriage. Marriage does take work, and sometimes you have to be emotionally mature enough sometimes to "step up to the plate" instead of making the other person do all of the work.