My friend told me last week. When she told me i flipped this is the first person think i have been able to tell. I don't know what to do i flipped so i haven't talked to her yet. She said that she did not like me like that but i am afraid to still be her friend. Help what should i do????????????
2007-11-17 11:19:01 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I had one of my friends in high school telling me she was a lesbian. At the time, it was too much for me....then again that was like ten years ago when this wasn't that common. Times are changing and you can't ignore the fact that a lot of people are coming out. Anyway, I felt like she liked me a bit paranoid. I would just tell her you understand and to give you some time to adjust to this because this is new to you. Don't completely ignore just tell her you need your space to adjust to this new thing. By the way, I was one of the few girls who still talked to my friend but most of them stopped talking to her which hurt her feelings. Just tell her to be patient and you try to be open minded.
2007-11-17 11:58:17 · answer #1 · answered by ♪♫♫♪ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My best friend is bisexual and it doesnt really matter. As long as she respects you as a friend and doesnt cross that line, it'll be fine, and believe me, if shes a good friend.. she will never cross the line, if thats what youre afraid of. Just take her as she is... theres other way more important things going on out there, the last thing you should worry about is your friends sexual orientation... just think, if something were to happen to her, would you feel the same way. If you guys have a good friendship you will look beyond sexual preference. Good luck, dont lose a friend over something like this.
2007-11-17 19:28:12 · answer #2 · answered by Joanna :) 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you were her friend you would have to ask this question. she TRUSTED you and now you might not talk to her? Maybe SHE would be better off not being friends with you. This doesn't change the person she is on the inside. i hate people who ask crap like this because i do have a friend like that and she's still one of the best people i know and i would die without her friendship. get some priorities and grow a pair chick
2007-11-17 19:42:19 · answer #3 · answered by ebeth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about it, she was your friend before and she trusted you enough to tell you probably because she thought you wouldn't flip!! Even though you did flip just try to act as normal as possible, don't even talk about that with her!! Tell her you are sorry you fliped and that you shouldn't have reacted like that but you were not expecting her to tell you that!!
2007-11-17 21:47:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you afraid to still be her friend?? You are probably friends with guys, right? And some of them you don't like as anything more than friends? It'll be the same with her, IF she ever does like you (which may not happen, so don't flatter yourself by thinking she's in love with you.). And if not, then what does it matter?
2007-11-17 19:45:32 · answer #5 · answered by Nameless 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have friends who are guys? Do you fancy all the guy friends you have? I don't think so.....
A girl can be a lesbian and not fancy you! She confided in you because you are her friend and this must have been reaaallly difficult for her to do. I don't think you've acted in the best way. Just tell her you were a little freaked but definately doesnt change your friendship and then just chill!
2007-11-17 19:24:07 · answer #6 · answered by ritasayshello 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be so closed minded. Just because she is gay doesn't mean that she likes you or wants to be with you. Gay people can have same sex friends too. She is still your friend, no different than the girl she was before. Show her that you are a true friend and accept her for what and who she is.
2007-11-17 19:23:45 · answer #7 · answered by angelajsk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she told you its because she really trusts you and looks up to you, she probably thinks that no matter what you will be there for her. I am not a lesbian but I am close friends with someone who is and she told me the hardest thing for her is girls that wont be friends with her because they think she will try something with them or be attracted to them. She told me that lesbians like other lesbians they are not gonna go after strait girls. Your friend needs your support, be there for her!!
2007-11-17 19:26:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not comfortable tell her and tell her why. It is because you are afraid she might hit on you. Right?
So tell her. If there is no other reason then your frienship should not be affected though the roads you choose to follow may differ.
Without honesty there is no real foundation on which to build a meaningful friendship.
2007-11-17 19:26:14 · answer #9 · answered by momonster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is the same person that you have always know and whose company you have enjoyed. It is time to grow up and realize that not everyone on the planet wants you in that special way.
2007-11-17 19:38:09 · answer #10 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋