Is there any married couples that are still in love?

Question

IF YOU ARE ONLY STILL MARRIED, PLEASE ANSWER THE FOLLOWING QUESTIONS:

1. How has your understanding of the wird LOVE changed since your wedding day?

2. What meaning of the word LOVE is the love most important in your marriage? Please explain.

3. Catholic theology says that true married love is based on each parner's free-will decision to work for the good of the other and for good of the marriage. What do you thinkk of that? Can you give an example?

4. On your wedding day you have an idea that if things did not work out you could split?

5. Catholic theology says that marriage is a voocation, a calling from G-d. What do you think of that? Please give an example.

6. Contemporary Catholic theology now emphasizes that marriage is less like a "legal contact" and more like "G-d's covenant with humanity" in which G-d promised permanent love. How does that fit with your marriage? Give an example.

7. What is your reaction to the idea of a married couple who say, "we have never had an argument"?

8. What hints about "fighting" would you give to young couples?

9. What is your reaction to ideas like "Don't apologize, it's a sign of weakness" or "Love means never having to say you're sorry"?

10. Please describe one or two attitudes or practices toward each other that have made your marriage work better.

11. Why did you have a Church Wedding? If you were being married for the first time next yea, would you have a Church Wedding? Why?

12.Catholic says that Sacrament of Marriage is "don" by the 2 partners not the priest and continues throughout their lives together. What do you think of that? Please explain.

13. Catholic theology says that the Sacrament of Marriage brings GRACE (G-d's presence) to the married couple. What do you think of that?

14. What would you say are the most essential or most necessary ingredients of successful marriage?

Thank you!!

Answer 1

. How has your understanding of the word LOVE changed since your wedding day?

We don't choose who we fall in love with, but we choose who we love. Love isn't about being "head over heals." I have been "head over heals," but not with my husband. My husband has been my best friend since the day we met. I've always had a clear mind about my feelings towards him, and I was never infatuated with him. I never worried about what he was doing if I couldn't get a hold of him on a particular night because I trusted him (still do).


2. What meaning of the word LOVE is the love most important in your marriage? Please explain.

Unconditional love (agape?) meaning that no matter what, we've made a commitment to chose to be together and live together peacefully.

3. Catholic theology says that true married love is based on each parner's free-will decision to work for the good of the other and for good of the marriage. What do you thinkk of that? Can you give an example?

No because I decided in 2nd grade that I don't believe in Catholisism. That was 30 years ago, and I do beleive in God and that Jesus is my Savior. And I am active in my church.

4. On your wedding day you have an idea that if things did not work out you could split?

Are you kidding? The day that you decide that divorce is an option, you've given up on your marriage!

5. Catholic theology says that marriage is a voocation, a calling from G-d. What do you think of that? Please give an example.

only if one partner makes enough to pay the bills and the other is barefoot and pregnant all the time. I'm barefoot at the moment, but I ain't pregnant and it happens to be my day off.

6. Contemporary Catholic theology now emphasizes that marriage is less like a "legal contact" and more like "G-d's covenant with humanity" in which G-d promised permanent love. How does that fit with your marriage? Give an example.

In our state, there are two types of marrige: contractual and covenant. The contractual is the standard $99 divorce if we don't like eachother in a few years. The covenant (which we have) has weird requirements to get a divorce like... you need Biblical grounds (cheating or abuse I think are the two referenced) and the spouses need to be legally seperated for at least two years and actively participating in counseling to put the marriage back together. To me, that just means that it's easier to work things out than to "take the easy way out and get a divorce."

7. What is your reaction to the idea of a married couple who say, "we have never had an argument"?

The only things we argue about is his family and that it's not a good time to argue about money. That being said, someone once told me that if two people agree on everything, one of them is unnecessary.


8. What hints about "fighting" would you give to young couples?

The one who truely loves you never makes you cry.

9. What is your reaction to ideas like "Don't apologize, it's a sign of weakness" or "Love means never having to say you're sorry"?

Always appoligize when you heart someone. Don't just appoligise. Ask for forgiveness.

10. Please describe one or two attitudes or practices toward each other that have made your marriage work better.

Never forget how to play together and have fun. Make sure to schedule couple time at least once a week.

11. Why did you have a Church Wedding? If you were being married for the first time next year, would you have a Church Wedding? Why?

Couldn't think of a better place to marry. The only other place I'd consider being married is in a nature setting (with an ordaned minester officiating, of course)

12.Catholic says that Sacrament of Marriage is "done" by the 2 partners not the priest and continues throughout their lives together. What do you think of that? Please explain.

You have to live with your partner, not the minester.


13. Catholic theology says that the Sacrament of Marriage brings GRACE (G-d's presence) to the married couple. What do you think of that?

God has to be central in your marriage or you will crumble. The marriage is the institution. the institution needs to be built on a rock and that rock is God.

14. What would you say are the most essential or most necessary ingredients of successful marriage?

Humor. You need to be able to laugh at yourself and with your partner.

Answer 2

1. My understanding of it has only been enriched by being in a marriage with this man.
2. Definitions of emotions tend to be vague...I LIVE my love daily and my marriage is a reflection of that.
3. the marriage and the partner comes first...makes perfect sense. By both parties being truly UNselfish, the bond grows and strengthens.
4. We made a commitment only after thoroughly exploring what we thought marriage would be and how we would achieve that. No guess work, only firm commitment with respect.
5. There are many vocations in life, and we are all called to differing ones, sometimes MORE than one. Being Catholic has little or no bearing on this concept, tho.
6. I am not sure where you got your info on Catholic theology, but i have never heard that expression of marriage....God promises HIS eternal love, and marriage is a sacrament instituted by God, thus holy. Catholic marriage was never "like" a legal contract.

Answer 3

This sounds like those questions from a questionairre from a Catholic pre-marriage class, or a marriage counseling class with a Catholic priest.

Yes, I'm still in love with my husband, and we've been married for almost 20 years. All that Catholic theology stuff, I haven't a clue on, since I'm not Catholic.

Answer 4

only G-d can make a marriage work because the wedding ceremony is nice but the marriage is hopefully till you die so if you dont have G-d in the middle of you 2 it will not work.

Dont go by Catholic theology go by the Bible, that is the word of G-d and nobody should change it nor for good nor for bad
G-d Bless!!

Answer 5

1...it has a much deeper meaning...more than I thought possible on my wedding day/

2...acceptance

3...it's true....the marriage should be more important than one individual

4...divorce was never an option (of course barring abuse or infidelity)

5...I don't believe in God

6...I believe it's covenant between the two people (see #5)

Answer 6

It is on the average and because you still have young kids in the house can put a damper on things but its up to you both to up the statistics when ever you want for how long you want all the way into your 80`s

Answer 7

Been married 7 years and it still feels like our honeymoon. I think our love grows stronger every day. Like the poster above me, I'll pass on the religious aspect of this post.

Answer 8

Wow, way to many questions! I am still in love with my husband, yes, marriage takes alot of work, but it is worth it!

Answer 9

what do catholics know, and why are u afraid to spell God