My wife and I have a pretty good relationship. We've been married three years. Sex, ladies, sex. My wife doesn't get turned on unless we've been arguing....and I'm really confused and don't get it. If things are going well and we aren't fighting, we always have a good day, but if I ask her, "Hey...you wanna.....you know?" She always says no.
On the other hand, if we have an argument and it gets to yelling and screaming and crying, something happens to her and she turns into a vampire! She tears my clothes off and when we do it she has CrAzY orgasms!!!?? W H Y ? ? ?
Why can't we just have a nice day - have some breakfast, go out shopping, catch a movie, go home, eat dinner, make love....? Now, I have to yell at her when I want to do it! I have to make it seem real too because she's a woman and can tell the difference!!
Ladies, what's up with my wife? Have you ever heard of this before?
2007-11-17 10:46:47 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think she just likes the emotions that go with it.You know being so mad at you and far from you to being sensual and close its normal just try to talk about it maybe she doesn't get enough emotional support and wants you to show her that you have feelings too.
2007-11-17 10:55:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if my husband asked me "hey...you wanna...you know?" I'd probably turn him down too. I mean, that's about as romantic as scrubbing toilets. But, when he starts...you know...I generally get turned on pretty quickly.
She may have some kind of fetish though--I don't know. I've never heard of someone acting this way about sex. Try talking to her about this--outside of the bedroom, and tell her your concerns. Communication is key in any marriage. Possibly even consider marriage counseling...I don't think this is normal behavior at all, but then I'm not totally up on all the sexual stuff out there. Good luck!
2007-11-17 10:51:26 · answer #2 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is, by far, the most interesting thing I have heard of. Maybe the adrenaline rush gets her going? I don't know, but this sounds like a verbally abusive relationship to me. You guys should seek some marriage counseling. It is not fair to you that you have been put through this. Are her parents divorced or something? Maybe this behavior is "normal" to her.
2007-11-17 10:51:22 · answer #3 · answered by jessiekarma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that sounds crazy because i was in a 16 yr relationship and when me and my ex would get into it he was the one that wanted wild sex and as for me hell-no i was to upset to even go there so i just think they have a strange problem but if i were you i would get out of the relationship FAST!!! i did and now i have good sex with my new boyfriend without any arguing are yelling i am so much HAPPY.. take care
2007-11-17 11:34:47 · answer #4 · answered by valrietorres 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you two talk? It seems to me that an awful lot of questions could be answered if the people having the problems would sit down and talk. May be your wife needs a tad bit more excitement. Easy to find better ways for that.
2007-11-17 11:09:56 · answer #5 · answered by Merrie S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Alot of girls I know agree on one thing. Quit asking for permission and start taking what you want. If my husband asks me, I dont get in the mood as much, but when he just starts without asking, IT REALLY TURNS ME ON. Im like your wife a little too. Makeup sex is the best sex. In the middle of the night, dont rub on her and try to get her to wake up, just start doing it, she'll wake up. I love it when my husband does that. If he trys to wake me up first I just brush him off and go back to sleep, but if he's already started....wow!! Quit asking and just start taking (unless she says "no" of course. Im not saying rape, but aggression really turns me on. Sounds like your wife likes aggressive sex too. Give it a try and good luck.
2007-11-17 10:57:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh Gawd! Yes I have heard of this before and yes it is not easy to fix! Think you'd better get your wife some councelling as, obviously you can't go on like this. She is getting herself so stressed that she needs sex to calm herself down again. Not an healthy pattern of behaviour so please seek help.
2007-11-17 10:53:33 · answer #7 · answered by curiouscanadian 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't notice this before you got married? That's not normal and she needs counseling. I could see it every now and then but not all the time.
2007-11-17 10:50:40 · answer #8 · answered by peaches6 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if it aint broke dont fix it, the only time a woman ever ripped my cloths off was in anger, no sex
2007-11-17 11:01:44 · answer #9 · answered by charlesjerrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anger can be very sensual. Nothing wrong with her. What a way to end a fight! Enjoy it.
2007-11-17 10:49:58 · answer #10 · answered by Shubunkin 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋