keep asking.."how did it happen?"...i feel that is rude enough...i always answer.."I do NOT relive it."...do you think they realize the person DOES NOT WANT TO TALK ABOUT IT ANYMORE...and most likely talked about it with their family only???? they have to move on...plus i feel it is not good to relive depressing times. what is your take on that???
2007-11-17 10:26:47 · 11 answers · asked by sweet 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
yeah, I always figure that they will tell me if they want me to know.
2007-11-17 10:29:46 · answer #1 · answered by a heart so big 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think they mean to be rude, I think they genuinely want to know what happened to the person. We are all scared of death to a greater or lesser extent and one of the ways we survive, possibly longer, as individuals of a species is to have information about the dangers in the world.
In order to recover, you need to make sense of your loss and mourn with your family and friends. There is no golden rule, but you can expect to feel strong grief for at least two years and to feel anger, loss, shock and longing, often all mixed up for this time. Your letter suggests you are feeling anger, perhaps anger at your loss which is being directed at the peopel reminding you of it.....Individuals are loved by others outside the famly and they may need to understand what happened. Time is a great healer, sounds like a cliche, but it is true.....................
2007-11-17 11:17:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it hurts when people talk about the passing of someone you love. But in my experience you'll never get over it or move on until you can openly talk to anyone about it. Most people aren't trying to be rude by talking or asking about it. That's just there way of actually seeing how you are doing. No one never said it wouldn't be hard but you've got to let it out sooner or later. Best regards. Hope you work everything out
2007-11-17 10:44:57 · answer #3 · answered by so in love 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're right, it's not good to dwell on depressing events when you're alone.
However, It's actually healthier for you to talk about it with others. The more you talk about it the faster you'll be able to cope with it. Avoiding talking about is not healthy and can lead to PTSD or prolonged grieving (>than 2 years).
Although denial and anger are both part and parcel to mourning.
2007-11-17 10:33:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone deals differently. I think yuh gotta frickin' grieve somehow. And later you relive the memories of the person without the sadness. It may take a while but that's what I think.
2007-11-17 10:30:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
How long has it been? If it's been 6 months and you still feel this way, you need help. Consider a grief counselor or psychiatrist.
If you don't want to talk, just say, "I can't do this today." Say goodbye, walk off or change the subject.
TX Mom
2007-11-17 10:35:49 · answer #6 · answered by TX Mom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ya i know..ppl want to know all the details and dont they realise that its hard!
cant stand hearing they are sorry because they truely arnt ..i know they may be trying to be nice but come on i know they arnt sorry... thats why some of us feel so much better hiding away from the world until we are ready to tlk about it...even then it sucks tlking about it!
id atleast have one person to tlk with when u need it..but other than that u dont need to hurry and telll everyone..give it time u know! let things go the pace u need them to go!!
well its good to let out your emotions although 2 years ago i did not do that! i didnt want ppl to see my sorry because they would only pitty me.. but i mean atleast when ur alone please let it out get it out....write down some things you feel...and then u can look back on it during other tough times and u will see how far u have come.. crying does help u may not think so but it does feel nice to let some pain out!!
2007-11-17 10:46:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
alot of people ask
because it seems interesting
or thats just another way to getting to
how u feel,
i feel the same way,
but i understand why people do it,
its better considering
to express ur feelings,
that way u dont drive ur self crazy
with that thought it ur head,
over and over and over.
2007-11-17 10:46:14 · answer #8 · answered by [!].RockDork.[!] 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell they that you would rather not talk about it and leave it at that....sometimes tho, talking about it does make it easier to accept and to move on.
2007-11-17 10:31:41 · answer #9 · answered by Chervack 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes talking about it makes you feel so much better
2007-11-17 10:31:26 · answer #10 · answered by boscowood 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋