when bad things happen to people ,they either learn from it or they become bitter,bully others.
what makes them go either way??
2007-11-17 09:51:24 · 15 answers · asked by I dont know 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
If it's an experience that tramatizes a person, then it would probably make them for fearful as a person, or violent. If it is an experience that they can pick up on the mistakes, then it'll probably make them wiser, or more aware. it depends on the person though, because someone who went through the the same thing as someone could turn out a lot worse. There are also other factors, which would be like what kind of person they were before their experience, how they handle things, etc.
** Like you know how they do profiles of serial killers lives as kids, and they usually had bad lives. They became worse obviously. But for example the guy who wrote the book, "A child called it", he had a really bad life as a kid, but I think he became a better person.
2007-11-17 09:59:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on what the experience is and how people have been brought up to respond to the bad things in life.
I lost my first born son at three months and at first it made me very bitter but against this God people kept telling me to turn to! I now know that it actually is part of who I am and it makes me more empathic with the people I work with. I'm a care-worker for the elderly and disabled. My Mum was disabled so I guess I was brought up to realise that not everything that seemed bad had to be that way. It was what you made of your life that was important.
Still hurts when the bad happens but no it doesn't make me bitter! I get annoyed when people use their childhood as an excuse too! It wasn't easy being a single Mum in the fifties or being the child of divorced parents but I can't blame who or what I am on other people!
2007-11-17 10:12:37 · answer #2 · answered by willowGSD 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why you would go one way or the other, but I feel that the bad experiences often times are the things that make us grow the most. We may not like the experience, but it makes us think about ourselves, what we are doing, what is important in life and where we want to go. I suppose if you have a very poor self esteem, or other problems that block you from learning the lessons from the experience that you could go in a negative direction.
2007-11-17 13:42:16 · answer #3 · answered by Simmi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
.When some people have bad experiences, I think that it makes them stronger and able to face new challenges.
However, some people will naturally become bitter or as you say become aggressive and perhaps become a bully towards others.
Some people will reach a limit to what they can have thrown at them.
I think that it is in the individual's nature as to what sort of a person they will become.
Ideal is to learn from mistakes or bad experiences - some people can't or won't.
Remember - life is a challenge!
2007-11-17 09:58:38 · answer #4 · answered by Beanbag 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Any experience makes us what we are. It doesn't matter whether it's good or bad it's how we learn from it. Some people get the idea that they are superior to others and unfortunately that sort of person does not learn at all.
2007-11-17 10:20:47 · answer #5 · answered by clivedexter 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion...it all depends on how the person deals with the bad experiences, I always thought that bad experiences make good people but, what about Mr. Burns on the Simpsons? it made him bad. And several people in real life that I know. So, it all depends
2007-11-17 09:59:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bad experiences inflicted by God, fate or nature or whatever you want to call it changes a person differently depending on what they were like before this. Some people will spiral into depression when a relative dies, others will want to support others in the same situation. Thos who were supported will be supportive to others, after all, what goes round comes round. Those who were nervous and no help was given will hate the world and end up hating themselves and could even result in someone being killed.
However, when someone else causes a bad experience, it is a deliberate act of hatred. Those who are hated will learn to hate. There is a short poem about his kind of thing.
If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn.
If children live with hostility, they learn to fight.
If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive.
If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves.
If children live with ridicule, they learn to feel shy.
If children live with jealousy, they learn to feel envy.
If children live with shame, they learn to feel guilty.
If children live with encouragement, they learn confidence.
If children live with tolerance, they learn patience.
If children live with praise, they learn appreciation.
If children live with acceptance, they learn to love.
If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves.
If children live with recognition, they learn it is good to have a goal.
If children live with sharing, they learn generosity.
If children live with honesty, they learn truthfulness.
If children live with fairness, they learn justice.
If children live with kindness and consideration, they learn respect.
If children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves and in those about them.
If children live with friendliness, they learn the world is a nice place in which to live.
2007-11-17 23:15:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the character, with positive outlook, it will be a lesson if not, vindication is in the mind
2007-11-17 13:14:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how they handle the experience.
2007-11-18 02:45:03 · answer #9 · answered by always right 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that each expierence helps to mold a person, and alot of it comes from your up bringing!
2007-11-17 09:54:36 · answer #10 · answered by B@rB!e 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋