My ex and I dated for a few years on and off, he would always break up with me becasue he was " scared" ( i have 2 kids). He was good with the kids and we where very in love, we never even argued. everyone was happy for us and we never though about marriage until we met each other,,, when i stopped seeing him i felt like I was grieving for someone who had died,( more than a year ago) i was extremly uspet. I started seeing someone else anout 4 1/2 months ago, he seems like a great guy so far. But my Ex wanted me back, he even told his and my parents he wanted to get married, and I said no. I love him but im scared to make the same mistake for the 100th time, i felt like if i said yes i was telling the world i was stupid. I feel aweful about,, do u think i did the right thing? how can I make myself feel better and get over this? and since I feel this way maybe Im not ready for a new relationship??? but i dont want to hold myself back and not move on,,, its been years, what can I do????
2007-11-17 08:44:00 · 7 answers · asked by Jessie 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
years since i've loved him,,,,, not years since i made the desicion.
2007-11-17 08:44:40 · update #1
YOU CAN TRUST THAT THE LORD GUIDED YOU IN YOUR DECISION. IT CAME FROM YOUR HEAD, NOT YOUR HEART AND 9 TIMES OUT OF 10, THAT'S THE RIGHT ANSWER.
2007-11-17 14:10:37 · answer #1 · answered by hisgreenthumb 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I would not go back with him. What is there for him to be scare about? He either wants to be with you and your kids or he does not. He needs to grow up. This instability is not good for your kids. His comings and goings are very disruptive to them. Do you really want to give up a great guy for one that cannot make up his mind? Stop waiting for him and get on with your life. You deserve to be happy and to have someone love you and want to take care of you and the kids. A scared man is not a man. You will get over him in time. If I were you I would give the new guy a chance and see what happens. I would not go back to the ex no matter what. Good luck.
2007-11-17 18:20:46 · answer #2 · answered by kim h 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie this guy sounds like a broken record ask yourself why on earth does this guy continually break up with you? Is he showing up now because you are seeing someone else? I really think you outta give yourself some time and not date anyone right now, take time and work on yourself heal from inside out and please forget what anyone thinks you know what YOU want in a man ,take some time and then get out there refreshed.cheers
2007-11-17 17:06:03 · answer #3 · answered by Versacetica 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
maybe he has learned a lesson here and he realizes he made a huge mistake. if he was good with the kids, and to u, than u may regret it if u don't at least hear him out and see what he has to say. if u feel awful about your decision it may be that u have regrets, and your worried about your ego and what others will say if u did take him back. but at least hear him out, if your regretting any of it u need to look at it closer before u say no.
2007-11-17 17:28:56 · answer #4 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should move on..
We all make wrong decisions in life and we should learn from those wrong decisions we made..Think positive and the future of your kids..
2007-11-17 17:19:41 · answer #5 · answered by Ophak 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would not take him back. The guy's a wimp. The only reason your ex wants you back is probably because he's not getting "any" right now.
2007-11-17 17:00:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I usually feel pretty unsure about unsure decisions I make.
2007-11-17 16:56:18 · answer #7 · answered by whoopykat 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋