lam 27 separated for two two years. I have a 2 year old son. I met this man who is 42 he is in the process of divorcing. He is not divorcing because he met me he was separated for 5 years He has one son and fostering two boys since the wife could not get more kids.At my age do you think its a good idea to marry a 42 year old with three kids and i got one of my own?
2007-11-17 08:36:44 · 14 answers · asked by gakuu e 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
How long have you known him? Are you living together? How is his relationship with his soon-to-be exwife?
Unless you've known him for at least 1 year, marriage shouldn't even come to mind. Also, energetically speaking, he is still bound to his wife. I would wait until the divorce is over, and then try to live together for about a year to see how it works. You are 27 and still have your whole life in front of you. Do you really want to get yourself into a situation of 4 children? Also, the age difference will get to you. No pun intended, but I'm a 40-year-old single mom, and I couldn't even imagine being married to someone 15 years younger than me. The level of life experience is so vastly different, that even the biggest infatuation in the beginning would end up with boredom and not enough common ground.
If you really feel you are compatible, wait. If he's serious, he will understand that you want to wait. Both of you should get the divorces final first, and then live together and test it out before you bind yourselves legally.
Also, it's always a good idea to take some time and figure out why the first relationship failed...people have the tendency to get themselves into the same relationships over and over again if they don't take enough time to reflect.
ps: if he is talking bad about the mother of his son, you should kick him to the curb right away...how a man deals with his ex is a good way of predicting how he will treat you once it's serious.
2007-11-17 09:20:06 · answer #1 · answered by natural_born_healer_67 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think you maybe getting a bit ahead of yourselves.
It sounds like you both need to finish up the relationships you are both in still. After both divorces are finished and you are both single then you can figure out where the future may take you. My husband is 14 years older than I am and he has two children who are much older but we have made it work very well. If you both take care of each others children and enjoy being together than you may answer your own question in time.
2007-11-17 08:57:24 · answer #2 · answered by luvstogamble1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do realize that if he does go through with this divorce that over 35% of his gross income is going to go to child support, right? He may also have to pay alimony. Then again your cheating so what the hell you deserve each other. The I'm separted line is the oldest one in the book. Divorce your husband. So he can be free of your lying cheating sl-ty a-s and leave your son w/ him. He's better off w/ his father.
2007-11-17 08:44:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-11 22:43:01 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if your asking this you have doubts.. so i say wait a while. go ahead and get engage.. even move in if you want to.. just to test the waters.. and after a year you will have your answer on if you want to marry or not.. listen to your heart.. not yahoo.. we don't know you.. we don't know him and how you both feel. but i would wait a bit just because you felt the need to ask this on here.. this is something you should already know.. and in that year of waiting you could save for and plan a awesome wedding and honeymoon..BTW,,, wait until both of you are divorce before you move in together.. it could create a whole lot of legal problems if you don't
2007-11-17 08:45:52 · answer #5 · answered by vis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why can't you date for awhile. your so young. I would hate to see you have another divorce in 5 years etc.
2007-11-17 09:44:28 · answer #6 · answered by Blue 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's probably not a good idea, but your heart will tell you what to do,unless your gut says run, your head may want to think it over.Then you will probably start the process all over again.
Good luck
~God bless.~
2007-11-17 08:53:49 · answer #7 · answered by luvspace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really, how long does a divorce take? Think about it!
2007-11-17 08:59:09 · answer #8 · answered by cynthia c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not about being a good idea or not. It's about you loving him and wanting to spend the rest of your life with him.
2007-11-17 08:41:00 · answer #9 · answered by terliuke 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get your divorces in order fist, then think about it.
2007-11-17 09:00:47 · answer #10 · answered by kim t 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋