My new girlfriend and I are about to spend our first Chritstmas together. We've both been married and recently D'd, we've been seeing each other exclusively since July, and it's pretty serious. I'm skipping my own family's T-day dinner for her's.
Here's my problem . . .
I don't want to get into that mundane plotting Christmas gifts and their costs, let's cap our spending, make me a list of what you want? To me that's the behavior of a stale relationships. But at the same time I also want avoid the feelings of guilt that come with giving too much or too little. I quess that's why we put those stale practices into play, I understand that.
But, that's not really a solution is it?
So I ask the public (you) for your input.
How far does one go on an occation such as this? I'm not going to buy her a BMW, but money isn't the issue. I want to shower her with gifts but I don't want either of us to come away with the feeling that we could of, or should of done better.
Suggestions...?
2007-11-17 08:18:56 · 7 answers · asked by paul8247 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
give a gift that has a lot of meaning behind it. It doesn't have to be expensive... just a thoughtful one.
One gift that always stands out from my mind was a .3 oz [yep, point three ounces] of perfume named "positive energy". My friend got it for me and enclosed a note that talked about how she looked up to me for being strong and positive when my mom got in to an accident and said For the days you can't always be positive, remember the good and spray on the happy. It was cheesy, but VERY thoughtful… still after all these years, one of my favorite gifts.
2007-11-17 08:42:03 · answer #1 · answered by girl_in707 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex and i did not have a lot of money one year so we said we would not get each other gifts or put up at tree. I came home and he had taken wrapping paper that happened to have ornaments on it cut some of them out and put them on a large plant we had in the house. We had dinner and watched a movie. I will never forget that Christmas with him because he took the time to make us a tree.
So, if you don't want to get into all the money or the gifts that your not sure about then do something for her you know she already loves or she would never guess you would do. Make a special Christmas night just for the two of you. Make dinner, some candle light, have some little gifts for her to open her favorite candies, a book from some she loves to read stuff like that, have a bubble bath for her and/or both of you. Give her a nice massage and just enjoy the reason you are with her.
That's giving her something that money can't buy and now a days its priceless to many women.
2007-11-17 08:36:57 · answer #2 · answered by luvstogamble1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Consider a nice tropical vacation for the two of you talk about it you buy the tickets and she brings the spending money. Or just get something nice like a pair of diamong earrings or a nice pendant necklace really every woman loves jewellery
2007-11-17 08:31:58 · answer #3 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not do something charitable at Christmas? Maybe help some needy kids, and not just at Christmas, but all year round. You'll both come out feeling great about having dones something wonderful together.
2007-11-17 08:27:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok i am a girl myself and usually us girls like jewelry, makeup, clothes, shoes, but you might wanna stick on the jewelry.......... 1st christmas, you might wanna get her like 3 or 4 sets of jewelry and wait until you get to know her more and she what she likes and what kind o fclothes she wears. So right now if i were you i would stick with jewelry and perfume or something on the basics like that but make sure you buy her a teddy bear to that says merry christmas or i love you or something like that on it............................. well good luck!
2007-11-17 08:39:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about a romantic holiday for two, then you can really get to know each other. If money' not a problem then splurge. She'll really love this, i know i would.
2007-11-17 08:26:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
give gifts and kiss
2007-11-17 08:23:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋