2007-11-17 07:51:26 · 14 answers · asked by confused 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First off you need to sit and talk, if you can't do that then maybe you should take some time apart or seek some sort of professional help about your problems with not being able to communicate. Good luck
2007-11-17 07:54:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You fight because both of you want your way and neither of you are willing to back down. Most people think if they back down then they have "lost" the battle and the other gained the upper hand. That is not true. The two of you are in a partnership together. Your goal should be the same. There is no win or lose. How about you be the first to back down. Not that you are giving in, you just trust he knows what he is doing. You are not going to loose your ground. Your partner will soon discover and follow you. Learn to let things go. Most importantly, learn to let the past go. Don't bring up the whole history book when you fight.
2007-11-17 16:04:16 · answer #2 · answered by Jessica C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off it is time to trhe conclusion of the reasons you are fighting once you come to an agreement that this is what your arguing about and that it is something important to be fighting about then it will never end.
Remember you can have many a fight concerning utter BS.
Really if you feel like you two cannot fix this rationally like adults maybe it is time for some professional intervention.
ie. Marriage Counselling
2007-11-17 16:04:56 · answer #3 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you need a break from each other. dont make it a break up, and make it clear that its not a reason to see other people. take some time, when u both feel better you should sit down and talk.
see what the root of the problems are. if you both want to srt things out and these things can be resloved then you can do it.
if they cant, then its probably best to go your seperate ways. but dont leave on bad terms its so depressing and upsetting.
if u do stay together spice up your sex life. sex is great, especially if u love the person. and if u love eachother then u can do WHAT EVER u want to eachother. its amazing. be adventurous.
if u argue so much to the point you are arguing more than you're enjoying eachothers company, then your obviously not right for eachother.
i hope you make up and have lots and LOTS of GREAT SEX!!!
2007-11-17 15:56:35 · answer #4 · answered by chips02 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is a tough question girl.you really cant go by what is said on here.no one knows your real situation.think about what your fighting about.does he mean alot to you?is what your fightin about mean alot to him? the fightin just might be a way of showing how much he cares whether its the right way or not.when your married your joining 2 lives together.theres things you must both sacrifice.love is stronger then friendship or anything. friends will eventually move on with there life but ur husband will always be there for you. remeber sacrifice is good.just as long as you know hed give the world up for you in the drop of a dime.i want to wish you the both of luck.dont give up yet love is so hard to find these days.
2007-11-17 20:57:12 · answer #5 · answered by Jess K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you need to really look at what you are fighting about. It is all that important of is it just small stuff. Maybe both of you need some time apart to just reliaze how much you love each other. Take a little break.
2007-11-17 17:15:01 · answer #6 · answered by Ash 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People often get caught up in how the other person is treating them. You could try a little experiment. Think to yourself that this person is the most wonderful, beautiful thing you've ever seen. Treat them like they are really wonderful, no matter what they do. Forgive quickly. People who did this report that since they changed themselves, their spouse changed for the better as well and the marriage was saved.
2007-11-17 16:00:20 · answer #7 · answered by Narasimha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
realize that you are stuck in a pattern, and you need to break it. It's hard but you need to bite your tongue when your partner does something that normally makes you angry. Either just change the subject or kiss him or her and say "Lets not talk about it, I don't want to fight anymore". You need to get to the point where you both agree to disagree and not try to change the other person but accept them as they are. If you cannot do that, then maybe don't be with the person, unless you are married, in which case then you need to work harder at accepting them as they are.
2007-11-17 16:24:28 · answer #8 · answered by stripedbook 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do each of you wish to work it out? that is the first question that needs to be answered. the next thing you must take into consideration is that every marriage at one point or another goes through a rough area. I know it seems like its at an end now but if you both genuinly want it to work it out then you can.It will take time and effort but you CAN fix it.
2007-11-17 15:57:40 · answer #9 · answered by hispregnantwife! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A little vague, but try this. When you are about to say something that you know will end up in a argument then, stop for a few seconds and say something nice instead. And ask him to do the same. You could also seek counseling. Good luck.
2007-11-17 15:56:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋