can u really b friends with an ex? someone u say u really care about and want to be in their life for a really long time?
2007-11-17 07:46:03 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My ex-boyfriend and I are friends and we get along great! I don't know what I would do without him! It was hard at first because he was the first guy I really loved but now it seems like the only logical choice for me.
I'm happily married but there's nothing wrong as long as it's on a friend level
2007-11-17 11:17:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on the situation. If you still love the person in a romantic way, then no. Also, if the person you dated was dishonest, then I think staying in touch is not an option either...who wants a liar as a friend?
My policy with the honest guys I went out with is this: We don't see each other or talk to each other for about 6 months, that is usually the time I personally need to make sense out of what happens, and to make the switch from "I love you" to "I like you." Once I feel that any type of romantic feeling, or any emotion telling me that I still want to be with this person in a real relationship, is gone, I don't mind staying in touch with the person. If we were compatible enough to have a relationship, then we are usually compatible enough to have a friendship.
What happens to me more often though is that I end up being really good friends with the new girlfriends of my exes...one of my best friends is now marrying my ex. Turns out that he picked a wonderful woman very similar to me in philosophical outlook, and we support each other quite well.
But it all depends on your own level of maturity. If you are not completely over your ex, then don't even try getting within 10 miles of him...I tried that as well in the past, and it was a total disaster!
2007-11-17 09:39:24 · answer #2 · answered by natural_born_healer_67 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they always say ex's are ex's for a reason....I think it just depends on the person, and how you feel about them after all this time.
I'm friends with only two ex's. It was really easy to have a friendship with them because we were so young that we confused being 'in love' with having love for the other... in short, the difference between loving your friend and being 'in love' with your friend.
One I am great friends with his wife. The other ex is on again off again with his gf and she hates me because I am supportive of his life decisions. I've always been supportive of both the 'boys' because that's how I am, and that's what Friends are for.
I think if you loved him and still want to be in his life it's OK... BUT you need to realize that people come and go in your life for a reason... sometimes they are there to help you through life...other times they are there only for a short amount of time to help you through a situation. Will this ex be helping you through life? if not, he's already served his "purpose" as being an ex rather than a friend.
2007-11-17 08:27:29 · answer #3 · answered by girl_in707 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it never work out that way, one or the other will move on or maybe eve both will move on, but as soon as one of you find someone else, the "friendship" is out the window, someone is going to get jealous or the new mate will prevent the other from talking to the ex. It's just best to move on and not look back, looking back only causes heart ache.
2007-11-17 07:50:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
properly, i'm not the fairly jealous style yet what you're doing is merely undeniable incorrect. Why did you marry interior the 1st place in the adventure that your ex is your desirable pal? that's one element to have touch including your ex and to get together with her. yet to talk your marital problems together with her and agree together with her (even no remember if that's in jest) while she calls your spouse phsyco...that's terrible. If I have been your spouse i could unload your *** and allow you to bypass back to the place you for sure care greater approximately being, including your ex. have you ever thought that perchance your ex is merely loving this??. It provides her "ability" to renowned she will shop pissing off your spouse (and hurting her). you're the two hurting her. you're able to take the advice that's approximately back your way and bypass one way or the different..... You and your ex at the instant are not very valuable people. you're able to be by ability of your wifes element. i will guess your ex would not opt for you yet she loves conserving a wedge on your marriage!
2016-09-29 10:30:33 · answer #5 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont really think its possible. especially if you really truly loved the person. and i wouldnt recommend being friends with an ex if your in a new relationship. i know i wouldnt want my man talking to his ex whether they were friends or not. but i have trouble trusting people so maybe its just me.
Good Luck!
2007-11-17 07:54:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex wife broke my heart. It was horrible. But in the long run I learned the art of forgiveness. It really made me a better person. Today we are friends. Not friends like we hang out, but we talk once in a while.
Good luck.
2007-11-17 07:49:34 · answer #7 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i had a lover for years, we split it went horrible wrong we both now married to others and guess what we stayed intouch for 4 years and yes we are just good friends.
2007-11-17 08:52:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I don't think keeping in touch with your EX is a good idea afterall they are a EX for a reason right.
2007-11-17 07:56:36 · answer #9 · answered by lee lee bear 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am friends with my "ex".
Actually we get along better now then the end of our marriage.
We have had to stay in touch because of the children, but we are still "family".
My ex and my hubby get along,
and I get along with my ex's girlfriend.
But I also realize our "relationship" is unique ;)
2007-11-17 07:51:26 · answer #10 · answered by MommaBear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋