By no means is she fat. By NO MEANS! However she does have a little bit of extra flab around her stomach, and sometimes it shows. She's such a blessing to me, and I love her very much. She is very very attractive to me, except in this area. She used to be between 180-200 lbs, and I'm kind of concerned about her getting back up to that --- she doesn't want to, and won't. But I think she could afford to loose 10 pounds. I know I'm being selfish, and the love I have for her does not depend on how much she weighs. HELP!
2007-11-17 07:40:12 · 22 answers · asked by shawnzmojo102 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My husband said to me one evening after I was complaining about feeling and looking so fat and I was going to for the 100th time loose some weight--"OMG, you are the most beautiful, sexy person in the world, if you lost weight, I would go insane. I wouldn't be able to keep my hands off of you, every man in this world would be so jealous of me!!! Every man in this world thinks you are hot now....if you lost weight imagine what they will think!" Well, that statement gave me all of the will power that I needed to for the first time in my life loose weight. I lost 40 lbs in 6 months. AND my husband supported me and helped me all of the way. He ate the crappy diet food without complaining, worked out with me, and told me everyday how beautiful I am and how proud he is of me.
This is all you need to do.
2007-11-17 07:51:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about gyms just get a bike and cycle to work or as much as possible. Or walk around more - don't rely on the car or even public transport. Give yourself more time to exercise and less time to eat. On the weekend do half an hour yoga and then jog round the block for fifteen minutes or so and then have a nice warm bath...both days. Go out and spend time with your friends or at a club rather than watch telly / computer or book. Just get into a habit or a routine. Weight never stays the same it will either increase or decrease.
2016-05-24 00:11:13 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your love does not depend on her weight, then what is the point of this question? Obviously you are critical of her weight. However, sadly the statistics are that very few people who lose weight keep it off permantly. Most people gain it back + some! So if she only has 10 pounds to lose - it would be better to do it now before it becomes 20 pounds.
You can not however ask her to lose weight. That won't end well for your health!! LOL!! But you can suggest activities that get her active. Instead of going out to dinner, eat at home where you can control portion size/fat content. Decrease daily calorie intake and increase physical activity - that is what is going to work to lose those 10 pounds. Do you belong to a gym? If not, join one together and go together.
But please do not tell her she needs to lose weight.
2007-11-17 07:49:58 · answer #3 · answered by twinkles 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't think she already knows that she has put weight on? You don't think she sees that little bit of extra flab around her stomach? What a twit. Do her a favor and find someone else who meets your standards. That is if there is such a person.
2007-11-17 08:12:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG.....you don't ask her and you aren't ready to get married if you are worried about a little flab around her middle. If my husband EVER had the nerve to pick my body apart like that and insist that I keep a certain area maintained for his sensibilities I'd have kicked him out of our bed.
We are so much more than our packaging. Am I assuming you have no flaws? What about when you get older, or you have kids? Do you have any idea what childbirth can do to a woman's body?
I don't think you are ready for marriage.
Don't be such a dope!
2007-11-17 07:45:40 · answer #5 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 7⤊ 0⤋
Obviously the love you have for her is measured by her weight. How would you feel if she felt the same towards you as you do in regards to looks because as you age , she may face the same dilemma towards you. If it concerns you from a health perspective, get out there with her and exercise together it will help rather than divide your relationship. Tell her she needs to lose 10 lbs and you are a goner.......
2007-11-17 07:49:27 · answer #6 · answered by reallynow 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you love her the way she is then her weight shouldnt be a problem. She knows how much she used to way and if she doesnt want to get back up to that weight then she knows what to do and when to get started. Have you considered that maybe shes comfortable with her weight now. If your so attracted to her then y let that interfere. Your her partner you should be there for her whether she wants to lose it or not. Dont be against her. Its her body if you dont like it there might be another guy who will!!!
2007-11-17 07:48:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Very touchy subject. Don't tell her. Try to get her to join you in a diet or a workout program. Make her think it's all about you getting in shape and that it's a way for the two of you to spend more time together. If you mention she has put on weight she will get mad at you for a long time and probably rebel against what you want.
2007-11-17 07:45:40 · answer #8 · answered by bob K 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love her because she IS a Blessing to you. Why does a lil' tummy bother you so much? Maybe you can start taking Evening strolls w/ her. Or make a game out of doing sit-ups? I think you should count your Blessings and Not the pounds !!
2007-11-17 07:52:30 · answer #9 · answered by casper 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You were right about one thing... your being selfish... What i want to know is how you got so damn perfect, that you can complain about others... Do you not think she knows what she looks like. you said at one time she was a lot heavier and has lost the weight.. why don't you look on the bright side of things at least she is trying... Now for her. I hope she does read this and finds out what a PIG you are and leaves you in her dust. you talked about her being a blessing to you... ever tried of being one for her ... OH MY GOD ... I FORGOT YOUR PERFECT RIGHT... I hope she finds out soon that she deserves better than a selfish jerk like you... Good luck to her....
2007-11-17 07:58:54 · answer #10 · answered by deerlady2000 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋