The relationship turned abusive and I had him arrested. After this I left him and moved out while he was at work do to being scared of what he would do. Long story short he promised to pay the ring off and now will not do it. What can I do?
2007-11-17 06:54:03 · 28 answers · asked by marvinj1313 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well you can't do anything to him, you can sell the ring and put what you get towards the bill, and remind yourself as you slowly pay off the remainder out of your own pocket to NEVER NEVER get involved with an abusive asshole again.
Cheap lesson, you're lucky you didn't end up having a child with him, with a lot of medical bills or dead. Count your blessings!
2007-11-17 06:57:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Pay off the ring and either enjoy it or sell it. And consider this a life lesson. Try to get some learning out of it. If you knew he had bad credit, why did you go ahead with buying the ring? If you knew he had bad credit, why would you consider marrying him?! I know money isn't everything, but bad credit shows a problem that he needed to resolve before getting LEGALLY involved with someone. That would have shown good character on his part. You were foolish, but got off lucky. Now you know better. Next time don't be so gullible. He used you and will continue to use other women. Next time don't be in such a hurry to get and keep a guy by paying for everything. Buying his affection was no guarantee, right?! And that's no basis for a relationship. Like it or not, all relationships have a power dynamic. The most successful are those in which both partners have a 50-50 or nearly equal basis. In this case, you had all the power in the relationship but either didn't know it or didn't WANT to know it - so he took advantage of that. Next time wait for a man of good character; not a bum. Money comes and money goes but you want to surround yourself with persons of good character in your life since they are priceless and hard to come by.
2007-11-17 08:13:18 · answer #2 · answered by D 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have the receipt? You can't return it or exchange it for something else (especially something less expensive if that is the case)? I wouldn't completely rely on him paying it off, and I wouldn't be stuck with an engagement ring that is not now, b/c that's just going to harbor bad memories b/c you'll (I would hope) never wear it anyway. If you can get something else (if you can't just return it and get your money back), like a pendant or a bracelet or something just for you, I would go that route instead of trying to keep the ring. Maybe even something that would motivate you or make you think of new beginnings for yourself. Because that relationship sounds completely over.
2007-11-17 07:02:03 · answer #3 · answered by Qui 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're afraid of him and don't want to meet face to face , work out a payment schedule. maybe you don't want him to know where you live? If you still have your receipts from your purchase, go back to the store, get a certificate of authenticity plus proof of its actual value and then go to Small Claims Court where you pay a few dollars to file your claim and then a few dollars to the Marshall so a Summons to appear in court can be delivered to where he works and where he lives. You don't need a lawyer to do this. Depending on where you live there is a limit on how much you can sue for in Small Claims Court. The Judge will want to see all your paper work from the jeweler or other expert concerning the value of your ring. If you win your case, he may have to pay any other court costs. Otherwise, the Judge may throw out the whole case and call it trivial. You volunteered to use your credit card so you just might have to eat the whole expense yourself. Good luck.
2007-11-17 07:16:22 · answer #4 · answered by pita d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sell the ring and use the money to pay the credit card bill. Surely you won't want to keep the memories associated with the ring?
2007-11-17 06:58:08 · answer #5 · answered by Babs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Technically you bought the ring and you still own it. If you need the money you might want to go back to the shop to see if they'll give you any kind of refund. A lot of jewlery stores have these policies that will allow you to return the ring with some re-stocking charge. Also, you might want to try to contact your credit card company and see if they have any consumer protection about this situation.
2007-11-17 07:12:12 · answer #6 · answered by Michael K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sell the ring and use the money to pay off the credit card.
2007-11-17 06:57:05 · answer #7 · answered by StephenWeinstein 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sell the ring on ebay and use the money you get to pay it off. I doubt you have any legal recourse since it is on YOUR credit card. Sorry your guy turned out to be such a creep.
2007-11-17 06:58:42 · answer #8 · answered by margarita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the ring back to the jeweler and hopefully they can reimburse the full amount or at least the balance due. What ever you do do not allow the account to go into collections, because he won't pay.
2007-11-17 06:58:01 · answer #9 · answered by ladilove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could ask the shop if it can be returned its worth a try
other wise sell it for what you can recoup as that is better than nothing
You could consult a lawyer but that may be throwing good money away
We all live and learn You are much better off without him Good luck with your next choice
2007-11-18 00:24:53 · answer #10 · answered by curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋