Don't sell it, give it back !?

Question

Okay..my husband's mom has given us stuff for the baby. Keyword: 'Given'. Stuff like a swing, diaper genie..etc.
What I do not understand is why she wants us to give the stuff back if we're not using it? Or once we start using it.

My baby is two months old now, I just changed her diaper and realizd, we don't even use the diaper genie. We either throw it in the trash or plastic bag.

Then I also have a swing she gave to us that doesn't work and is taking up space in our small hallway closet. So the thing is we don't have/make very much money. We're poor, especially right now. Some of the stuff we have attempted to sell on craigslist, bc we don't use it.

Once she finds this out, she wants the item back! Is this right for her to do this when my baby might need diapers instead of an unused diaper genie or swing? I know that some of these things she wants to give to her niece for her baby. But once you give someone something it becomes theirs, right?

Answer 1

Not really. With baby items you should always check. We have a bassinet that is an antique and has been in our family since the 1940's. My mom let someone outside of our family borrow it. If she was to sell it my mom would be majorly pissed off. If the swing doesn't work, tell her, but don't sell it to someone else since you know it is broken. Throw it away.

Answer 2

Why don't you politely tell her how you feel? Tell her how much you apreciated all the gifts she's given you, but that there are some of those you barely use.Tell her how much you'd need the money for diapers instead, and chances are either she'll let you sell the things or she'll take 'em back but buy you diapers herself;) I'm sure she'd understand if you told her nicely
She's probably not thinking of any wrong and she might not know how desperate you are for this money. She thinks she's doing the good thing by giving it to someone esle who needs it.
I think I can get her, tho... It's like : "if you don't like it, I shouldn't have bought it for you" and to show her disapointement, this is the way she reacts. She might think you're being ungrateful. Tell her you're not.

Answer 3

my niece is going through something like this her mom gave her stuff for her shower and now that her sister is pregnant she is telling my niece she has to save it for her sister. i think this is wrong because if you give some one some thing for their baby i think it is theirs to do with what they want. although i cant imagine your baby not using a swing my kids lived in theirs. i am wondering why you had a baby if you cant support it, if the swing don't work i would give it back but i would also tell her not to give you anything more if that is the way she is going to be.

Answer 4

My grandmother is the same way! She has her entire house so full of junk that you cannot even walk around! She gave me a bunch of toilet paper rolls to make a craft with my son. She said, "Please save the others for me, I want them back". WHAT?!?! They are toilet paper rolls...you have a million of them already! Anyways, yes..the stuff is yours and tell her if she is not going to play nice then stop giving you things.

Honestly! *sigh* Giving a broken swing to a newborn's mother? Maybe you should reevaluate if she is even being sincere in her "giving". I would sleep with one eye open. (Kinda joking, kinda not)

Answer 5

if she wants to give them to her niece for her baby then why did she give them to you two?? lol I with you on this one, once something is give to you its yours, no questions about it. one thing you could tell her is if she wants to give you stuff, why not give you diapers or baby cloths, things that you know baby will need. I hope everything works out for you!! best of luck and congrats!!!!

Answer 6

i agree with you completely. you need money, and since you dont have any use for it, why not sell it. so you can get diapers or formula. i would understand if it was a family heirloom, and she wanted to keep it in the family, but not if it is just something she bought. good luck.

Answer 7

its like giving someone a birthday gift then asking for it back! its not right! the things she gave you became your possessions and you can do whatever you want with them! i think its a jealousy issue really. she doesnt want you to use it, but she would probably be the same with her niece. try to ignore her comments and things if she gives you anything else.

Answer 8

she gave it to you guys right, lol, she didn't say you can BORROW IT, lol. i think if somebody gives you something then it belongs to you, and she should care more about if her grandchild has what it needs instead of what it doesn't need.