A guy & I who have been family friends for decades.We fell in love after being best friends.7 years best friends 5 years in love.We are committed couple in love just like any other couple.I called him at work to ask him if he had called mailed chatted with me or was it someone else earlier told him we have to meet up to talk about it.He asked me what my name was!After i told him who i am he said hes at work busy to call later.I havent called him wont call at work but im worried about his tone of voice when we spoke first time when i called him at work.He almost sounded like he was talking to stranger.Whats stranger dual split act?All he says is busy or say lets talk later working all the time as hes doctor hes too busy to mess around ive family friends who work with him.Im just shocked surprised he suddenly sounded that way
2007-11-17 06:20:58 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't know what these people are all about. I call my husband at work all the time. Usually once a day. We don't talk and talk - usually it's just a quick question.
So, you guy is a doctor, it's probably harder to get hold of him. I think the change is a little weird, and you should ask him about it. I mean, he didn't know who you were? That's weird.
But that one gal is probably right. Caught him at a bad moment.
2007-11-17 06:47:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't completely clear, I can't tell if you are just friends now...or if you are married, or dating or what..but here is my take.
Don't call doctors at work...and if he says he is busy...more than rarely, you aren't what you think you are to him. Physicians know where the love in their life sits...in their mind.
Maybe you are worrying about nothing...or maybe, he doesn't feel the way you think he does. If you are committed for so many years, then you should know this man, and not asking us.
Family friends...you mention this first....that doesn't mean you are married, or committed per se. But it does mean that you put much weight on the relationship.
Best bet, pull back. Don't ask or call. See if he pursues you. If not, the relationship has changed, no matter what you think. Worrying or fretting doesn't solve problems. It only makes you crazy.
So back off...and recognize you may not have the relationship that you think. Twelve years and not married yet? May not happen.
Just my thoughts.
2007-11-17 06:43:14 · answer #2 · answered by kishoti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband does the very same thing to me, when he starts talking all professional to me I'll say to him someone is in your offer and you can't talk right now,he'll say right thanks for calling. Know big deal I'll just call back later or he will call me right back.
If his boss is in yours husbands office he can't be talking to you it's not very professional and it doesn't look good.
You say your just like any other couple who is in love and committed,sorry but you are far from a committed couple who is in love.You two are something i just don't no what that is.
2007-11-17 13:46:04 · answer #3 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never, Never, Never, Never, NEVER call your man at work to ask about silly, petty or personal things...unless you are calling to tell him you're warming up his dinner (and you aren't talking about meatloaf) wearing only a smile.
He was probably having a really hectic time.
2007-11-17 06:28:48 · answer #4 · answered by lady_phoenix39 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a doctor. Let him be a doctor during the day and your husband at night.
2007-11-17 06:32:42 · answer #5 · answered by Kitten Hood 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax. You are sounding like one of those crazy girls who have to make a problems out of nothing.
He was at WORK. You simply got him at a stressful moment. Quit being so selfish.
Good luck.
2007-11-17 06:26:14 · answer #6 · answered by box of rain 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, maybe he was busy and could not talk to you on the phone. You are over reacting.
2007-11-17 06:27:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think you may be over-reacting; he was probably just very busy and in front of colleagues.
2007-11-17 06:26:49 · answer #8 · answered by pussycat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are that insecure, expect him to really ignore you; in the future.
2007-11-17 06:41:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah my boyfriend can do that maybe he's just having an off day...
2007-11-17 06:25:43 · answer #10 · answered by leela 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋