why do i have feelings for someone else, besides my husband?

Answer 1

not just a skank but, a dirty skank.

Answer 2

Why are you asking someone else? You are the only one with the correct answer to your question. You have to be more specific in regards to what kind of feelings. Since we are feeling and emotional creatures, it is natural to have a variety of feelings for different people. If you are talking about emotions like love, sex, intimacy, then the answer is that you have not detached from this other person. Whatever he has that meets a need of yours that your husband can't, is the issue. If it is about something that you absolutely need in a relationship and you know your husband in not or can not meet this need, it will always be an unresolved issue for you.
You need to work through this. Come to terms with it. Easiest way is to put yourself in your husbands position. How would you feel?

Answer 3

Well, first of all, you're human. It happens, so don't beat yourself up about it.

The question really is what the feelings ARE. To feel a physical attraction to someone else that you'd never pursue is fairly commonplace.

To feel like you have fallen in love with someone else is a bit different. If that's the case, it often indicates that something is wrong in the marriage. The thing to do is to try to address the problem in the marriage rather than pursue the outside relationship.

Answer 4

Not knowing your particular situation, perhaps you should be asking this to your husband...Communication...Tell things like they are...9 times out of 10, openly talking about a problem makes the problem diminish and opens the doors to so much more...Maybe the someone else is actually inside an unknown side of your own husband...Really think about what YOU are actually lacking and what YOU actually want and untap that resource from your husband....

Answer 5

Well, why do you? No one here can read your mind, but I will venture a guess and say, that sometimes married or long term partners drift apart, fall out of love, get a divorce, and fall in love with someone else, get married, etc.
Figure out what you want out of life and what are the options that are open to you. Maybe you want out of your marriage. Maybe you are going thorough a phase. In any case, clear your mind and set a definitive course of action.

Answer 6

It is normal; happens to everyone if they are truthful about it. Animal magnetism happens; certain people are just pulled toward each other, but the smart ones realize what it is and do not react on the temptation.

Answer 7

Being attracted or appreciating another man's personality or looks is one thing. Having "feelings" for another man means you have allowed yourself to betray your commitment to your husband and your marriage vows to forsake all others and cling only to him. You're headed for trouble. If you want to keep your marriage, stop the emotional infidelity.

Answer 8

Because you are not content with your husband. If you were you you would not be looking around. To fix it, stop looking and say to yourself that I will work on my marriage instead.

Answer 9

emotional infidelity eh? tsk tsk... u should stop it right now before it gets more difficult to stop---its like quicksand... the longer u stay in it, the harder it is to get out.
it this person u feel for is a friend, stop the friendship. if he asks why, tell him. he has to know that ur marriage comes first.

Answer 10

Because you are selfish. You are only thinking of yourself and no one else. It's what YOU want and you are a selfish person.

Answer 11

Get some good counseling and find out, if you want to keep your marriage happy and healthy.