i've been married for a year and a half to my first love but i met this one guy about 3 and half years ago he just lived to far away and this guy recently got out of jail and i cant stop thinking about him now....i've told him that if my husband and i ever got divorced i'd want to be with him if he was available...i love my husband but think i'm falling in love with another man. what should i do?
2007-11-17 06:15:17 · 20 answers · asked by Melissa G 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
the guy didnt actually do anything wrong...its a long story....he broke his arm and was on painkillers and failed the first drug test and the judge didnt say anything but then when he failed the second(arm still in a cast) the judge was rude and put him in jail
2007-11-17 06:24:23 · update #1
You can't be this dumb! Long story? Judges don't go looking for people to drug test. He was arrested for something to have to take a drug test. And then he went to jail for parole violations. You don't get charged for parole violations because you're under a doctor's care.
A year and a half into your marriage you've got a back up plan in case it doesn't work?!?! With a convict?!?!
Leave you husband now before you completely destroy his life.
2007-11-19 12:34:22 · answer #1 · answered by kinky_scotty 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well it sounds like you're not just thinking of him but you're communicating with him as well. Why do you want to be with a jailbird anyway? Painkillers don't get you put in jail so there's obviously something behind it and it really doesn't matter cuz he's not the man you married so you shouldn't even be courting the idea of ever being with him. You might've forgotten but you said "Til death do us part" not "Til someone better comes along", quit talking to this guy and putting yourself in a situation where you are tempted. If you honestly don't want to do something wrong, you know what you have to do. How would you feel if your husband was doing this to you?
If you insist on carrying on this way, then let your husband go. Don't waste his time.
2007-11-17 16:08:34 · answer #2 · answered by Vivita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all love a convict. And now that he is on parole, of course he sets your heart aflutter.
If you did not catch my drift at the moment, let me tell you, I am being very sarcastic about your predicament. I can't even begin to count the many many issues that are wrong here.
It might be that you have some misguided infatuation or a crush on the bad-boy type, (Does he drive a motorcycle and have a leather jacket, and tattoos?) In any case, I don't know who you are married to, and maybe your husband is another released offender, but we can't choose who we fall in love with, can we? In any case, my dear, if you think that your marriage is worth risking, and you need to pursue your true love, then make this decision and go for it. Otherwise, I suggest you try and work on your marriage and put the jail bird out of your mind.
2007-11-17 14:24:24 · answer #3 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have felt that way but I was never married. THe grass is not greener on the other side. Appreciate what you have (if hes a good man) and treat him as you would want to be treated. What goes around comes around. And he just got out of jail... Dont hold on to the past b/c the past will get you no where. Think of your future.
2007-11-17 14:20:58 · answer #4 · answered by Cynthia 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
get counseling cause that is unfair and disrespectful to your husband. you may think the grass is greener on the other side but its not, and what the hell? the guy spent jail time?
edit: that is a BS story cause they would have cancelled out the painkillers and they often dont even show up.
2007-11-17 14:21:28 · answer #5 · answered by djmixah7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who do you really love? Are you that unhappy in your marriage??? You should go to counseling without your husband knowing about it. Perhaps you are searching for something and it will only come out at a counseling session... Never go backwards.....If your past relationship did not work out the first time, It will NEVER workout ... Appreciate what you have at home and make you marriage work...'til death do you apart". Best of luck.
2007-11-17 14:28:10 · answer #6 · answered by diana0175 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
stay with your current husband. i don't care what the guy did, he was in jail for longer than a night, and he'll most-likely be in there again. the grass is always greener...rigt now you think jail guy can fulfill all the things lacking in your current relationship, but you haven't thought about all the thing jail guy lacks that your husband has.
2007-11-17 14:31:19 · answer #7 · answered by magerk 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are playing the Yahoo Answers Attention Game.
2007-11-17 14:40:50 · answer #8 · answered by Starte Christ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave the good man hook up with Jail guy and go to the Jerry Springer show.
2007-11-17 14:19:09 · answer #9 · answered by silverbackdan 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Thats bad, i feel bad for ur husband =/ Sounds like you want a divorce? If u dont love ur husband tell him and get it over with. He doesnt deserve you
2007-11-17 14:19:38 · answer #10 · answered by domenicmall 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋