do you think mixed race relationships can work e.g english and asian?

Question

theres been no problems with race in our relationship but i dont think his family like me because im white, why is that? im respectable and not loud, we have a son together but still im not good enough. and he says things about my family and labels it is because they are white. isnt that abit racist to my family?

Answer 1

As long as there's LOVE between the two people, and that you both feell STRONGLY about each another.

Most Asian parents would like their off-springs to stay within the Asian culture and stick to customs and traditions and sadly, even in the 21st century some parents just will not see beyond that.

I only know of the odd few Asian men who's partners are English, but eventually their parents came round to it...also, its the sterotypes that some Asian parents have towards others of a different culture, but this is also a nice way to bring about understanding between the two cultures and thats the beauty of it all.

However, for many Asian girls, its a different story. Some girls just leave behind their families to pursue a life with their chosen partners, others abandon the mixed relationships altogther due to aggro and turmoil because the parents do not agree with her seeing a man from another background, and there is still a rare few who will go through all that heart ache just to be with the guy she loves and EVENTUALLY, her parents and family do come round to it in the end orrr sadly..disown her altogther.

Follow YOUR heart..talk things through properly with your own partner and then pursue your dreams.

Good luck xx

Answer 2

Yes

My best mate is married to a British Asian, they have been together 16 years and have 4 children. They argue like any other couple but it has nothing to do with the colour of their skin.

I have defended her through the years with the ignorant morons out there that judge before they know anything.
I should also point out that her husband is also a close friend of mine - unless the cricket is on!

Answer 3

If two hearts come together and forge as one, then anything is possible. Love does not know distance, race, height, geography, or any other "taboo" labeling. When an individuals time has come to an end and as they slide through the hour glass of time, hopefully that person will know that they lived their life to its fullest. What a shame to miss out on such a gift, as love, merely because they had different geographical histories. Love is love, no matter how you label it. I say absolutely.

Answer 4

I have a relative who married an Asian girl and they are very happy, been married for 16 yrs and have 2 wonderful kids. I also have a friend who married a black man and they are still happy after 21 yrs.they have 2 kids also. Its not the color of their skin its their cultures and when both people are willing to bring them together it works just fine.

Answer 5

i am in a mixed race relationship, he is white and i am, well im half english half bouganvvillian, yes they can work, and that family are being very racist but take no notice there is only 2 people in your relationship, my bf's parents did not like me at all because i was not of the caucation persuation but we stuck with it and they have eventually realised nothing is wrong with it, except his real dad is still a racist but who cares? prove them wrong :)

Answer 6

so long as the people in the relationship are willing to make it work, yes. There are people out there who will try to upset them, but that's just one of the problems with racism these days.

Personally, I'm "white" and married to a hispanic/native american descendant and we live just outside a reservation. If people give us funny looks I don't notice, I think it's cuz I don't care.

Answer 7

Yes.
The problems come from other people, not the 2 people in the relationship.
If you can cope with possible objections from narrow minded people then they work just like any other relationship.

Answer 8

well, kinda but i know from experience that the parents wont like it since they want relationships to be in their own race if you know what i mean? For example if you were asian they the parents would want you to have a relationship with another asian. Thats just how it works out like..

Answer 9

unless they only speak their respective languages, I don't see why it wouldn't work. i'm american-asian and a little more than half the guys i've dated weren't asian at all. my boyfriend now whom i've been seeing for almost 4 years is italian-american and it's been great.

you just have to be respective of each other cultures and always be open to different things

Answer 10

I think only the simple minded put emphasis on race. Sure race and culture are important, but I think righteousness and logic are far superior.