I have just moved back to my hometown. I ran into my best friend from high school and we are going out to lunch to catch up on things. I have already come out to my family, and my friends seemed to find out at a natural pace. I feel as if there is pressure to not misrepresent myself to my friend, but I don't want to force it. Should I suck it up and tell her right away?
2007-11-17 05:38:18 · 8 answers · asked by mebamg22 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
If you are comfortable in your own skin, she will be happy for you too. She will either see that you are a happy fully realized person, or she will retreat within her own prejudices. Either way, you have nothing significant to lose, and a whole lot to gain.
show your happiness - most people are flattered that you trust them.
2007-11-17 05:44:27 · answer #1 · answered by jfrosty12004 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I think so! It's like the band aid thing. It's better to rip it off fast than to slowly take it off. If after telling them they have a problem with you being gay........then they were never really a friend in the first place and you are better off.
2007-11-17 13:53:20 · answer #2 · answered by laurie195 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If this would give you a peace of mind, then do so, but don't do so just because you want to see her reaction. You first have to ask yourself one question, what is it the real reason you want to share this with her?
2007-11-17 14:02:38 · answer #3 · answered by Levi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're gonna 'catch-up', she'll ask you about your love life... perfect window to mention it. Say it casually too so she knows it's no biggie.
2007-11-17 13:46:04 · answer #4 · answered by Simon 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only you can answer this.
Does your friends need to know it? Will it harm or change your friendship?
Do you have to tell everyone?
2007-11-17 13:45:45 · answer #5 · answered by Post Girl 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well, if she is a very good friend i feel that you should tell her. you don't want to lie about your feelings. if she is a true friend it will not matter to her.
2007-11-17 13:44:34 · answer #6 · answered by DAMIAN 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're life..You're decision..
When you make it..make sure it is for the right reasons
2007-11-17 14:11:20 · answer #7 · answered by Wayne 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just tell her " God you'll never guess who's gay..."
and then after a pregnant pause (hehe)... say "MEEEE!!!"
.. and show her your new clogs!...: P
2007-11-17 14:12:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋