This will be my last Christmas. I am very sick and have been told that I will not make it past Aug of 2008. I have an 8 month old son and A fiance whom I adore. Both are my life/I am there life not to mention theres no family on either of our sides and I want his to be the best Christmas I can. We dont have very much money at all, and this is my sons 1st Christmas. I know that Christmas is a time of togetherness, family and love butI have a problem. I want to get them both a gift that will last forever. Something that they can look back on and know I am right there with them.I found out that my fiance is buying me a star with my name. Thats my gift and will be passed to my baby boy when I am gone so that he knows Mommy is right there with him watching over and protecting him. I want something just as nice for them and I cannot find/think of anything. I need something special and unique yet affordable... I need something truly memorable for there last Christmas with me. Any Ideas?
2007-11-17 04:40:03 · 12 answers · asked by geniusmommy 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Christmas
Get hold of a video camera and start recording messages. Get as many as you can done, and get them put onto the most durable format you can afford. This way your son will always know what Mommy looked like, sounded like, and what she truly wishes for his future. Your husband will have a visual reminder of your time together was well, but tell him not to look at his for a little while. He needs to work through the grieving process first and reviewing these messages of love and support will probably have to wait until he comes to terms with his loss.
It wouldn't hurt to go to a professional photographer and get a few photos taken as well. They can do marvelous things with their ability to keep digital records of photos these days and you are going to want to take advantage of that. Don't worry about what you look like, as it is more important to put a face to the name. No matter how hard people try, faces fade with time and it will be important to have tangible things to remind them and help them keep those memories fresh and vital.
This may sound a little maudlin on the surface, but I have a very good friend who lost his dad in the war. (I am retired Military) Believe it or not, Dad is now the angel on top of the Christmas tree. It would not be terribly expensive to get this done by a local sculpture and it might mean the world to your son in a few years. I know that it is an extremely important part of the decorating process and means the world to my friend and his son. Hope this helps and I wish you well on your journey. I hope we get to meet on the other side.
2007-11-17 04:57:14 · answer #1 · answered by MUDD 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry. This must be really hard for you. I have a few suggestions for you.
- Make a video of you, your son, and your husband. In this video just have a great time. Show ur family that you love them and always will. As your son grows up and looks back at this video he WILL know that u do/did care about him and loved him with all ur heart.
- Make a scrapbook. Take tons of pictures at Christmas with u and ur family. Then paste them to the book. Also, at the end of the book u should write a letter to ur son expressing ur love for him.
- Leave ur son and husband engraved rings. This isn't my favorite idea because it isn't especially from you but it is still a wonderful thing to have for ur family. You could even make one for yourself and always keep it on even as you pass. If you keep urs on and ur son keeps his on it will be the thing that holds ur love.
- My last idea for you is to give him a locket. Take pics at Christmas then put them into that locket. That would be an incredibly special gift.
Again, I am SO sorry to hear about ur sickness. Although I don't know you well, my prayers will be with you.
Good Luck.
2007-11-17 05:19:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh Dear, I am so sorry!! I am somewhat in your shoes and I think that is why this question blew me away so much!! I have just been diagnosed with ALS and I can tell everyday that I am getting worse and worse! I have also been thinking about the holidays! I have a husband and two children at home and I was wondering the same thing, I was just to scared to ask the question that you did!! I have though it allot though! I was reading some of the advice that was given to you and I LOVE the video and letters advice. I bought a very nice locket for my daughter that has pics of us together in it but I am still thinking on what to give my husband and son. I wish you all the luck in the world and most of all, the very best holidays!!!
2007-11-17 05:02:40 · answer #3 · answered by Trea (pron.tree) 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That really depends in the situation. You can always send greetings to him for Christmas if you want to. But you have to ask whether or not that would be welcomed by him? Has he requested that you leave him alone? If so then I would honour that request - you may be causing him pain if you suddenly reappear around a very important time in the Christian faith. If the reason for the fact that you are no longer friends is indeed your lack of belief then have you thought about why? The reason could very well be that you have inadvertently disrespected the person you called a friend and hurt him thoughtlessly. Think carefully about what you want to achieve by wishing him fro Christmas.
2016-05-23 23:40:53 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you saved? Leave them knowing that you will be waiting with Jesus in heaven. If you are not saved I pray that you will come to know Christ in this your time of need. I think the best gift you should get them should not be of something material. All things in this world shall come to pass. I like the movie idea. The ring idea is ok, but there is no way to know what size your son's would be. How about giving your son letters for important stages of his life. Like when he starts school... graduates, goes on first date, gets married, gets older whatever points of his life that you really wanted to be there for, you still can in a way. I wish I had something like that from my mother. For your fiance, i think you should get married. Life is short and uncertain for everyone, this should be no reason for the two of you not to get married. Make the most of what you have left. It is all anyone can do. I hope this helps.
I will be praying for you and your family.
2007-11-17 04:55:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
make a video on christmas morning with your little boy. takes lots of pictures of you guys as a family. You are in my prayers & i hope you come to know God if you haven't already. Comfort your family that you'll be watching them from heaven everyday. a loved one of mine was in a similar position of yours. He wrote 60 letters, one for every christmas & birthday until his son is 30years old . I thought it was sweet & now his son is almost ten. I also suggest making a scrapbook, it's a nice way to keep all your family photos together. God bless you during the holiday season.
2007-11-23 02:50:10 · answer #6 · answered by Keke 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best gift, write a letter and attached a few photos. Make sure you use gel pen and good quality paper.
If writing is not your thing, how about a locket? So he can always carry it with him.
Live life one day at a time. Life is not a number and miracles do happen, all you have to do is believe.
2007-11-17 05:03:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry about your sickness. Want I would do is write a special letter to your son how much you love and and care him so much and tell him about you. So when he get older and he ask his daddy and he can read that letter to him. And if you can get a picture with a frame with you and him. or him you and daddy together. I am sorry. But have a good christmas..
2007-11-17 05:42:33 · answer #8 · answered by Proud mom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the others on the video and scrapbook another suggsetion I might have is making a quilt of your old cloths and pictures with you and your son
I am so sorry I can't imagine what you are going through I have a 11 month old and it pains me to see what you are dealing with emotionally
2007-11-17 05:31:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How about a video recording and pictures and a letter written from you for them to cherish in the years to come...so sorry you have to leave them behind, but I am sure they will never forget you, no matter what you do
2007-11-17 04:48:15 · answer #10 · answered by beetlejuice49423 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋