the problem is my ex husband is still going around wearing his wedding ring and is in complete denial. We have to be in constant contact because of the kids and he still doesnt realise that i am seeing someone else.I was going to tell him the other night but He flipped out when he heard someone we both know asked me out over a year ago. I personally think it is none of his business! any advice on how to deal with this?
2007-11-17 04:19:52 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am divorced 1 year
2007-11-17 07:49:50 · update #1
You should tell him you are dating again just for the sake of the kids. But you don't need to go into detail with him. You don't owe him that anymore. As far as him wearing the wedding ring, let him - it's not going to affect anything you decide to do. I think the best way for him to realize you are moving on is to tell him that you have found someone else and keep telling him. Let him know that you are happy. That's all you can do and hope that someday he will get the picture.
2007-11-17 04:24:00 · answer #1 · answered by Paula Christine 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just keep the discussions about the kids and nothing more. you can let him know that you are seeing someone by casually mentioning the man just to see how he reacts as a means of seeing whether you may need to worry about a restraining order if and when your relationship with the new man becomes serious He may think that eventually you are going to want to come back to him and by mentioning a new man in your life you will be letting him know that isn't going to happen and be able to judge whether he is going to accept that or cause problems and that gives you more time to be aware of the possible danger from him in the future. Good Luck to you!!
2007-11-17 04:39:02 · answer #2 · answered by Al B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How long have you been divorced?
If it were me, I wouldn't say a thing. It isn't any of his business. His only business with you from this point is anything dealing with the children. Discuss what you need to regarding the kids, then...well...end of discussion. Your personal life is your own, his is his own. If he is having problems getting over the end of your marriage, he needs a counselor.
2007-11-17 04:29:48 · answer #3 · answered by Chels 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Best of luck to you . Jealousy can hurt you physically as well as emotionally . Maybe set him up with a woman but don't tell him is the only thing that i can think of that a man responds to . What ever you do just watch your step it can get ugly
2007-11-17 04:33:28 · answer #4 · answered by dad 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when it comes to contact for the kids then have him talk to them ,if their to young then he can leave messages on cell phone or get answering machine for home phone. tell him if something happens with the kids you will call him otherwise he doesnt need to call you. arrange a pick up place to let him have his visitations,he doesnt need to come to your place. when he asks questions about other people or your life,tell him he is no longer part of it and he has no right to know anything. then tell him that your dating now and want him to move on because you have.
2007-11-17 04:27:50 · answer #5 · answered by marilynfsmgm 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yep,been there and have changed my ways. My ex husband was physically ,mentally,and emotionally abusive to me. I will not go to my ex's house for any reason what so ever. When I go down to see my children I tell him to bring them to a restaurant so that he and I are on mutual ground and I will not let him come to my house. When it is his time to get our children I get him to meet at a restaurant also so that he can get our children,.When you go to get your children from him or to take your children back to him bring along some good friends,boyfriend,spouse ,or anyone that way you will not be alone with him. Then if He can't get the message that you do not want to be with him either ignore him or press charges on him . however if you do press charges on him it may be awhile for you to see your children.
2007-11-17 04:29:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
IF YOU BOTH KNEW THIS LOVELY MAN BEFORE YOUR MARRIAGE DISSOLVED. THEN IT'S QUITE POSSIBLE YOUR EX FEELS BETRAYED. IT'S A THIN LINE BETWEEN LOVE AND HATE. SLOW YOUR ROLL AND WATCH THE WARNING SIGNS OF A FATAL ATTRACTION. IF HE CAN'T GET OVER YOU . IT'S POSSIBLE THAT YOU MAY NEED TO GET THE STATES PERMISSION TO LEAVE TOWN WITHOUT NOTIFYING HIM WHERE YOU ARE. SAFETY FIRST.
2007-11-17 04:35:15 · answer #7 · answered by anthony b 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you are getting re-married. Then just say you're joking and that you are just dating the guy. May not help but, at least it will be good entertainment watching his veins popping out of his neck!
2007-11-17 04:24:36 · answer #8 · answered by delux_version 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
he still loves you in a kind of way or is jealous to a extreme, ignore him, the more you give in to it then he knows he has your attention.
2007-11-17 04:23:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are right, he has not moved on, no sweat off your nose right, do not worry about him it will drive you crazy!!!!!!!!
2007-11-17 04:41:20 · answer #10 · answered by kim t 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋