Should i pay my ex back ?

Question

i was whit a girl for 8 and a half years , she was my life and i did evrithing for her. My father died 2 weeks ago. I purces a plain tiket to se her in september , i supose to se her in december. Copule of weeks before my fathers funeral she totl me that she thinks we shoud end up our relationship.
I was devastated and i still am .Finally she told me that she is in love whit somebody else that is better than me . I did evrithing for her and he was my fiance.
What soutl i do know ?. I can make her suffer the same way i did .
Should i revenge my self ?
She was evrithing for me, I have no reason to live.
In all this years i support her whit love , compasion and finanical.
Now she is a doctor and i am still strugeling to becom somebody .
Now she decided that she is to god for me.
She was whit me just in tha good days.
Now when i need tha most a person in my life she betrayd me.
Al my dreams of a familli of life are gone.
Should i pay her back ? What do i have to lose ?

My father died of lung cancer .
Was diasnosticated in june this year .
I am a good man , and i did not diserve this .I belive that if someone is hurting me whyt no reason , wen i did only good to that person that i should have right to make that person fell tha same way,
Even if i still love her , what is the good to hold my revenge when si did what si did.
Maybe is better to hurt her so she can see what people deserve when are hurting others .
i have some indecent pictures whit her , i am wondering if all of our firends will se her , how she will feel.
i dont want to hurt her phisical , i just want her to know that i can be as bad as she was , that i did not deserve what she did to me.
She was my life.
And she distroied evrything for me .

I dont know how to spel because is not my native language.

Answer 1

Let it go Bro. Nothing wrong with being with one lady, but if she doen't want to be with you anymore, move on, live free and rock on. Enjoy being you for a while.... find that mojo again and you'lll meet someone even mor especial and that lady who burned ya wont seem so imprtant any more.

Answer 2

I can understand exactly how you feel but having been left beside my self already a couple of times i have learnt that make a revenge to the person and even trying to forget by dating others doesn't serve anything. I guess best thing is to tell you self you deserve better and that beeing with a person who doesn't love you whon't give you anything good anyway. I don't think you should be angry she left you when you lost your dad, she was honest to you while some pepole might have pretended stay together in this circumstances just by politness. Telling you the truth straight out as she did was good of her but if I would have been the girl I would still be by your side as a friend after all you've gone through. Hope you will feel better soon, remember only time can make it better and if you really love you'll never forget but life's goes on, some days are sad others are like a gift from heaven..and we have to force our self to live and hope for the good ones:)

Answer 3

What do you have to loose? Some more of your dignity and self respect. She is the one who has lost out, not you. She is a deceiver, a cheat, and a user, thank God you found out before you married her. It is hard now, but you will over come what you are feeling, the anger, resentment, and the feelings of abandonment. Give yourself time, I say one year. Do not call her, or plot for revenge, it will only make you look desperate, and frankly a little pathetic. You don't need any more shots to your self esteem. Just take it day by day and I guarantee that one day you will realize that you went one whole day without thinking about what she did to you. You will never forget the hurt but you can move past it. Don't use this as an excuse for not making something out of yourself, you can be whatever you set your mind to. Use this experience to motivate yourself to be a better man, then one day she will see what she left and it will be her with the regrets. Good luck.

Answer 4

Just let her go and don't worry about her. One reason for not getting involved in someone going to school to be either a doctor or a lawyer is that over 80% of the time the relationships fail. You will find someone who will be far better for you but in the meantime, take the time to get over the loss of your father. You can go to memory-of and establish a memorial for him there and that may help you get past this. I will give you a link for that. It is sad when one person outgrows another but I am sure she never realized that her life would change when she became a doctor since there is such a high divorce rate, as I mentioned, just just tell yourself she was not the right person for you and look for someone who is and you will be happier in the long run.

Answer 5

No you should let her go and the pain she has caused. Even though you think this will end the pain you are feeling, it will not. Try to forgive so you will be released from the feelings you are having about revenge. She will have to pay karma over what she has done to you. I do wish you the best, as your part in the relationship was pure while her's was not, so you have nothing to be ashamed of. You actually were to good for her. Be glad you found this out before marrying her. Getting even out of revenge will cause you shame. Sorry to hear about the passing of your father.

Answer 6

,You obviously don't love her if you are thinking of revenge, pay her back. etc. It is terrible that you tied up your entire existence in her but it is time you accepted reality and move on. Go to school, study, work, meet people, change jobs or locations, whatever you have to do to move on with your life.

She has the right to her life and her choice do not include you so get on with your life. The best way to SHOW her is to make something of yourself. Be a better person.

Life is to short to dwell on looking back and getting revenge. You best revenge is to let her know it doesn't bother you. And I'm not saying it will be easy, but it is best for you and for her. As you deserve to be happy.....so does she. Believe me there is someone out there for you and you just have to find her and be ready for a new love.

And with your present attitude you could end up dead or in jail for the rest of your life and believe me you won't find new love in a cell.

Answer 7

The best way you can pay her back is to get on with your life, and find happiness and success. You cannot do this as long as you are focused on your bitterness and need for revenge. You continue to punish yourself for her rejection each day that you dwell on this. Thank her for revealing her true character to you and not building a life with you under false pretenses.

Let go and move on. You now have the opportunity to build a new and better life. Will you choose this new start or continue to wallow in self-pity?

Answer 8

YOur feelings are understandable but I hope it will pass. I felt this way too. Dont get revenge it wont solve the problem. t will eat away at u if you lower yourself to that level. Get on with your life.. get past this hate and start a new life you will find happiness again. As people told me here, happiness is the best revenge!

Answer 9

Hon not forgiving her will only eat you up inside, if she is your life let her be happy, be happy for her, even though you are hurting. I am sorry she hurt you. Move on, learne and live, life has a way of making you who will will be in a future time, you will meet someone else and you will be happy, maybe happier than you were before.

Answer 10

Revenge will only hurt you in the end. Be a bigger person and move on with things that make you happy and do not apply to her.