they're almost getting divorced!!!! what should i do????
I seemed to be the only one who's interested in keeping my family together and looking out for my sisters, even my older brothers.
2007-11-17 03:39:30 · 8 answers · asked by chixka.. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
maybe you should try finding out their problem first. you could arrange some events with your siblings to make things right. you could book a romantic restaurant or have some dinner or surprise in your house. inform your parents individually. tell your mom that you guys (without your dad) wanna have some dinner with your mom, and tell your dad you guys wanna have some dinner with him (without your mom). and when they meet. make some dramatic saying like : 'mom, dad, we did this for you. we dont want you to fight again. please, do it for us. there are lots of kids who're in big troubles because of their parents. dont let us be one of them.
2007-11-17 04:30:23 · answer #1 · answered by Whatever! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is good that you are interested in keeping the family together but sometimes you have to accept a divorce and try to make it as easy as you can for everyone. You can try to get them to go to get some counseling and see if that helps but if not, you have to accept the divorce and then work to make sure that they keep it civil for the sake of all of you and that means that they don't talk bad about the other parent or use you and the other children as weapons in their fights. remember that they still love you even if they no longer love each other. You might be able to talk to each of them alone and see what each tells you and then counseling or even a change in each of them may help them become happy again and avoid the divorce. Good Luck to you!!
2007-11-17 12:04:13 · answer #2 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do nothing at all, it's there relationship to screw up or mend. You have good motives but the bottom line is they have to want it to work out or they would be doing it for you. A word to the wise if I may? Sit down with both of them and ask them if they would consider going to marriage counseling (only a suggestion) or to talk to you openly about it. Beyond that there is nothing you can do. I truly wish you the best of luck!
2007-11-17 11:56:56 · answer #3 · answered by beamer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't force people to be together. You should want both of your parents to be happy even if it isn't with each other. I know that you are hurt, but none of this is your or your sibling's fault. It just so happens that they don't feel the need to continue a "forced love" situation that neither of them may be happy with. Yes, it hurts, but you still have your parents, even if they don't live under the same roof.
2007-11-17 11:48:19 · answer #4 · answered by No one 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly? if they're unhappy....they need to separate. There are always chances to get back together. And it probably isn't a good environment for any of you, with unhappy parents. try looking at it from their point of view....why spend life unhappy? try not to be so selfish. You should want the best, and happiest for your parents, and if that means they get a divorce...then thats their decision. Don't make them feel guilty for wanting to be happy!
2007-11-17 11:44:36 · answer #5 · answered by Danielle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If that is what they want you can't stop it. It is sad that you are a casualty in all this. The best thing you can do right now is to have good relations with mom and dad and help them in any way you can to ease the hurt.
2007-11-17 11:44:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to get them to think about you and your brothers, they are being selfish, thinking about themselves.
They got into a marriage, but they brought you in, is not your fault.
Tell them cowards, they can't fix anything.
2007-11-17 11:51:04 · answer #7 · answered by Mother of three 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, you have no power over other people. You can tell them how you feel about the whole thing.
2007-11-17 11:46:13 · answer #8 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋