How do you pick yourself up from being dropkicked to the ground?

Question

My ex-boyfriend's done whatever he can to tear me down, and it works.

Answer 1

You don't have to be a victim. You can always set your boundaries and make your own decisions. I read a great website just this morning and would recommend it -- http://www.selfgrowth.com/articles/Treffert1.html

Answer 2

First you realise that its him with the problems, and chances are he will do the same thing to the next girl cause he probably doesn't like himself very much and so he has to tear others apart to build his own ego and shield his insecurity. these guys come a dime a dozen, now you know what to look out for in your next relationship.
Second, you do something for yourself that makes you feel good, maybe a new hair cut or something, then every morning when you look in the mirror you tell yourself out loud, " i am a good person, i am a caring and intellegent and i look good". Sounds silly, but try it.
Third, is he done too much damage and you need proffesional counciling.

Answer 3

Yeah, but who is he??? Is he the pick of the litter? Forget him. Give yourself an honest assessment; keep what you like and change the rest. Set goals for yourself that are quick and manageable. It isn't easy, but you can do it, and it will make you feel so much better. Clean your house, too. Do some rearranging. That will help change your outlook. Clear out old clutter. It's amazing how things like that can boost your morale and clear your mind. If you find that you still need help with your depression, see a doctor or a mental health professional.

Answer 4

What you can start telling yourself:

- I know my own worth. No one else tells me what it is.

- No one can break my spirit. No exceptions.

- My actions speak for themselves.

- People who choose to believe an immature jerk are not my friends. I will make others.

- I am now choosing better boyfriends.

Answer 5

That speaks well of you , the fact that it works , means your willing to hear criticism, and,,,,, any man would fall for you .. thats an atractive trate...