I've been with my husband for 5 years now. This Christmas we are going to travel up to PA to visit our families up there. The unfortante thing is my husbands brother is throwing a Christmas dinner at his home. He doesn't approve of me for some reason. No one knows, either do I. And every Christmas season or any special holiday or occasion that goes on they only invite my husband and our child. But they never invite me. And that hurts. Because on Christmas Day I want to be able to spend it with my husband and child and everyone all together. My husband doesnt defend me on this matter. He just goes along and forgets that I have feelings and it hurts that i can't be part of his family. He doesn't defend the fact that he should speak to his brother and defend me as his wife. What can I do to get a point across him and his brother?
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Raquel
2007-11-17 02:26:30 · 5 answers · asked by Raquel R 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Christmas
Your husband and his family are "as holes". You deserve better.
2007-11-17 03:03:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happened to me one year becuase my husband felt I had done something I didn't, it was so stupid it was about our children's bedtime. Well he spent the holiday away from me and our family. When he came home we got into the only fight we have ever had. I told him that if he ever spent another holiday without me without having a good reason (like work) I would take our children and leave. It would be it. Holidays are ment to be shared with your family not by yourself. Want to know what I would do. When you get up there explain to him that if you cannot go with him to his brother's then neither can your son, because you will be with your family and he isn't invited.
My husband felt the way he did becuase he had just gotten out of the hospital with a TBI (tramatic Brain Injury) and his emotions and feelings and even preseptions were off. So his actions were somewhat justified, your husband's however are not. He should graciously decline his brother's invitation saying that his wife is a very big part of his family, if she isn't invited then he must decline during the holiday season, Then after wartds call up the brother and ask him if he would like your husband and son to come up later in the year to visit. That way you look like you are trying to still have a way that they can see each other. Merry Christmas and Goodluck.
2007-11-17 11:23:39 · answer #2 · answered by victoria E. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in these situations i find writing a nice, calm letter explaining how you feel might be able to go some way to thawing out his brothers heart.
they obviously will not listen to you if you speak to them but with a letter they have it there in black and white and can read it over and over again.. if you make sure it doesnt sound like its all about you then you should be able to show who has the upper hand. ie-you for being mature!
regardless of how long your partner and you have been together he should have the balls to stand up for you!
i always write letters to people im having difficulty with, it seems to hit home a lot better than having a quiet word or shutting them out yourself. you have a child and owe it to them to try to rectify this before things get even worse. its a time to spend together.. and the sooner your pig headed brother in law gets to know this the better.
2007-11-17 11:07:59 · answer #3 · answered by *Mrs R* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont giv him sex... then talk to him and tell him how you feel about this topic.. if that fails then take the child and go to your parents for christmas without him
2007-11-23 18:09:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you can go as a complete family. good luck and prayers to you.
2007-11-17 10:34:42 · answer #5 · answered by Ginnykitty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋