how does marriage re-marriage and divorce effect children?

Answer 1

So many factors play into this question. The childs age, the type of divorce (clean or nasty), custody, I could go on and on.

I left my ex when our daughter was 2. Best thing I could have done for her. I know, people will disagree but when two people fight, argue and generally don't get along - what type of environment is that to raise a child in? We never fought in front of her however our anger towards each other was extreamly hard to hide. He has since remarried and has baby #2 on the way. Our daughter is fine with it however we live 2 hours away from him. She does not see him very often (because he chooses not to see her) and I have remarried to a great man who also has a child the same age as mine.

Just remember, what you want as a parent is not important. What is best for your child is.

Answer 2

I really don't understand your argument that somehow you and society would be better off having children out of marriage, because then you would never be divorced (?). Divorce is bad because it breaks up a marriage. If there was never any marriage to begin with, that's almost even worse. If you believe that marriage is defined exclusively by 'false symbols' of rings and wedding dresses, then you really have missed the point of what a marriage is. Think of it less of being a Hollywood movie climax and more of a promise, committment, agreement, and partnership. Marriage is a covenant between two people to align themselves and their goals together. The idea is that the two individuals are determined to accomplish more working together than the sum of the individual's achievements would have otherwise. Without a marriage covenant (or agreement), what would keep the couple together when things got tough? With marriage, there has been a promise made to work out the problems and differences, make changes if necessary, and keep improving together. Marriage is also about children. There are enough things in this world working against our youth, and they need strong parents with strong standards to keep the family unit moving in a sure and steady course. Children need and want direction from parents that are unified in their efforts. Letting children figure it all out on their own is like letting a garden grow on its own. You'll just end up with weeds.

Answer 3

All three things in a young child's life would be hard, the marriage would be good. The divorce would be bad and remarriage would be confusing to say the least.

Answer 4

as long as you communicate with children they will understand that's what I did and after 3 yrs of sencond marriage my children have finally come home to live with their new family

Answer 5

self esteem, confidence, blame, self image, insecure, stress, fall behind at school, look at your class notes, ders loads of good stuff!

Answer 6

Probably buggers them up good and proper.