For me, I cut my family out of my life. It took me till I was 32 to relaize that I am entitled to a peaceful life and my children to a peaceful childhood. No more chances... no matter what the sweet words are. No matter how much they feel like a victim for not seeing the grandkids. Enough is enough!
When is enough, acutally enough for you?
2007-11-17 01:52:11 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
I like this question. It shows you do care if you are asking it. Forgiveness and all that is good if you do it but helping yourself and the abuser in this life is best done by taking a stance and defending yourself.
How does an abuser get the message if you do not do that? If I took my mother's advice I would turn the other cheek and allow further verbal and emotional abuse from a family member. I personally take a stance about how I am spoken to, and treated emotionally from every member of my family.
For me, enough is enough when you have taken it for a long time, in my case most of my lifetime. When you are an adult with your own family that is when you begin to really see within your own family (spouse and kids) how to treat people with respect because you love them a lot.
If you didn't grow up with this it does not mean you aren't capable of giving it once you have your own family. In fact that is when you begin to see what it should be like, begin to say enough is enough, and thus begin the process of healing hopefully both yourself and the abuser.
Don't suffer begin to heal it is difficult, but it is not wrong.
2007-11-17 08:37:28 · answer #1 · answered by Vash 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I had to cut my family out of my life too. I did it when after one of our Sunday visits to my mother's house, my husband looked at me and asked why I keep going back for more.
He pointed out that every time I went over there, I was always upset with myself for not saying what I wanted to say to them.
It has now been 12 years and my parents have never seen any of my 7 grandchildren. I keep in contact with my sister and some of my nieces and nephews but not with my parents. It was too harmful for me and my children.
My three daughters are now grown and it surprised me to find out that they remember the terrible things my parents used to say and do to me. Like, when I was battling cancer, I was put on bed rest for 3 months after surgery number 3 in preparation for surgery number 4 so my husband took me and the kids to my mom's house thinking that she could look after me and the kids so he could continue to work. Well on day 5 she because very angry with me and beat me up in front of my children. Two of them remember that and they were only 4 and 7 years old at the time.
Sometimes you have to do what is best for your own well being.
2007-11-17 02:15:30 · answer #2 · answered by nana4dakids 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't hesitate to say "enough" to anybody who tries to control my life, with realistic expectations that I must surrender control at times for the greater good (i.e. at work).
2007-11-17 01:58:01 · answer #3 · answered by Mickey Mouse Spears 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you realize 'enough is enough'. Actually, it should probably be long before that. But the important thing is to do something about it.
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2007-11-17 01:58:27 · answer #4 · answered by sheek Txn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some of Jesus' disciples apparently had the same problem you do, and on one occasion one of them asked Jesus if he should forgive someone as many as seven times. Jesus replied, "I say not ... seven times: but, Until seventy times seven" (Matthew 18:22, KJV).
What Jesus meant by this expression was that we ought to forgive others without limit. Why is this? The reason, Jesus went on to say, is because we should treat others the same way God has treated us. You see, we owe God a debt that is far greater than anything we could ever repay—a debt caused by our sin. But God in His grace has forgiven us anyway—not because we deserve it, but simply because of His love and mercy.
And once we have experienced God's forgiveness and grace in our own lives, we should treat others the same way. No, they may not deserve it—but neither did we when God forgave us. The Bible says, "Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you" (Ephesians 4:32).
Have you experienced God's forgiveness in your own life? If not, or if you are unsure, ask Christ to come into your life and commit yourself to Him. Then pray for this person who hurts you, that she will realize her own need for God's forgiveness and give her life to Jesus also. He will change her, just as He will you.
2007-11-17 02:02:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋