People remember you because your gay...?

Question

You ever notice that homophobics maybe even others... tend to remember you because your gay? I mean I'd be talking to someone and start talking about a guy and then they'd say something like "Oh you mean the gay guy"...yes...

label much? -.-

Answer 1

People tend to associate a person by noticable traits i.e. "thin guy", "old lady" etc. This is based on our internal use of generalization as a method of dealing with massive amounts of information. Of course, we often abuse generalizations both internally and externally.

As an aside, I tend to forget my gay friends: "who was that guy that I think I worked with..." (sorry kidding).

Answer 2

I think it's funny that it's easier to identify a gay guy by how much of a homophobe they are. =] They are so far in the closet, Sergio. And they talk about gay guys more than us, too. I guess it's not completely their fault that they are in the closet and try to be the farthest thing from it. They're raised that way.

Answer 3

people do it all the time.. It does not just stop there .. When I am at work there is a customer who is just .. and my supervisor has labeled him as being called "chipmunk" when he sits on a chair / like a bar stool chair his feet dangles ..or it may be something innocent like talking "you know that lady who talks with a lisp, who is short" We as humans say things/ words to describe what they think is the best known fact of that person. If it is a gay thing, straight or whatever..

Answer 4

out here in the outskirts of Philadelphia where the rich are like in Gladwyn and all back in the 90's when several women started saying they were gay or bi, it was a huge thing. people talked about it and you..nothing negative... just that you were different.. and for the rich families they disapproved in public but in private they were very much curious and wanted to be educated about it all. i got a lot of crap from men but women adored me...but now, it's no big thing but now people seem to be completely judgmental or their not. i mean Jayne Mansifield is from Bryn Mawr, so it can't be that bad right?

Answer 5

I know what you mean. One that I get all the time is "Jeezus, you're tall. And gay too, huh?" I feel like saying, "Yup, that's me. The tall blonde c0cksucker from Germany". You'd never go to a up a fat person and say "Jeezus, you're fat. I bet you beep when you back up", or some such thing.

Answer 6

Sometimes it's just because it's easier to identify people that way. There's four Josh's in my grade. If someone doesn't know my last name then I'm the quiet kid. There's like not even 10 black people in my school. When people don't know their names then it's "the black one," and it's easier to tell who you're talking about.

Answer 7

Labels happen for too many reasons...race, ethnicity, gender, socioeconomic status. It's truly something I wish they'd focus on in schools when teaching children to socialize in a healthy manner.

Answer 8

I don't wish to be remembered for a label such as being bi...
I'm hoping that I am rembered for the person that I am/was

Answer 9

Yeah. I hate that. Being gay is only a tiny bit of us; it does not define our personality.

Answer 10

lol thats how my friends always talk "which michael" "o the gay michael" i tend not to care though except when theres a new rumour about me theyll call me the gay guy...