How do you get rid of anger?And hate?

Question

I want advice on how to change my hate into something creative.I think about it all the time.I hate the way I was treated and want to forget about it by turning my hatred and anger into indifference.I was advised that the opposite of hatred is indifference and the way to get someone away from you is by indifference.

Answer 1

i when ever i get angry or begin to hate, depending on the situation i either consider myself above the person / event that is the source of my negative emotions, or i try and focus my attention on something else. Sometimes i work it out on a treadmill, or i take a long walk.

To channel it into something creative would be to dwell on that emotion long enough for you to be inspired and then carry out the creative process, and its not healthy to feel anger or hate for so long. I know because i used to be an art student, when you are inspired by an emotion it tends to linger. Its better to use ur creativity as a distraction

All else fails i get a bunch of ppl i like together and we drink.

Peace.

Answer 2

To get to true indifference (versus the faked indifference we use to stay in denial about our true feelings), you've got to get past the hatred and let go of all of the feelings you carry about whomever/whatever you're carrying them for. The only way you can do that is to get past the resentment you hold for that person--to truly reach a point where it doesn't bother you if something really good happens to them--because they no longer mean anything to you. That isn't easy.

My motto is this: "The greatest revenge is a successful life." This means if my parents thought I should end up a useless drug addict; I make sure I don't do drugs at all. If my adopted family assumes I will never be more than my white-trash roots, I become a good wife, a good career person, and a good friend....

Rise above, release the hate feelings through deep breaths and concentration. Don't allow yourself to put energy into hate--because hate takes up a lot of energy and it ages you in face and attitude. Mostly, never stop trying. I still have moments of hate; but they are less in number now than the moments of hate I had last year, or 10 years ago...

Answer 3

Anger is the by-product of emotional pain. It is non-productive and the only person it hurts is the person harboring the hate.

You should analyze why you are angry. Try to sep back from it and think of a multitude of reasons why this person might have hurt you, whether it was intentional or not, and keep in mind that nothing is ever black and white, but many shades of grey.

Do you like and respect yourself? Has what this other person did that hurt you cause you to doubt yourself? Do you fear there is a grain of truth in what they said or did that you don't like seeing in yourself? When you are honest with yourself and face the fact that you are human and as such not perfect, nor is anyone else... then you can come to control your hurts and anger. Perhaps you were disappointed in someone you thought better of and felt betrayed by their actions. Because you don't know their reasons for doing what they did, you allow it to eat at you. Cut the other person some slack, and yourself as well. You are going to be hurt and angry a great many times in your life. But once you acknowledge it, then put it away. Everything happens for a purpose. You probably don't have all the facts and you allow it to color your personality. Understanding and being honest with yourself is the key to learning to manage your emotions.

Answer 4

I know this is most likely an answer you do not want to hear. I have carried hate for a long long time it is only in the last year or so that I have slowly been able to let it go , the reason I am getting over it is because I have started to study with Jehovah's Witnesses & I have found love is real , they are restoring my faith in God & people but I still have a long road to travel but I am on the right path.

Answer 5

Ah.. the best trick is not to get rid of it but not to take it on board in the first place.

Can't turn anger into indifference - only time does that.

Watch the movie Gattaca, then pick something that inspires you and put a Gattaca like attitude to it.

Answer 6

I want to suggest the following hoping that it will help you overcome your hatred and anger. These are the 2 principal poisons in man's life. Away with these before you are being eaten up. Formation of conscience is very important.
1. Hatred: Love. Think of your past when you were delicate and growing up. Your father and mother and even other people kissed you and hugged you because they loved you and you are lovable too.
2. Banish and forget any wrongdoing which you have experienced and think of a peaceful man who is always joyful and generous.
3. Anger: Patience. You need a lot of patience as soon as heated discussion arises. Keep cool. Drink a glass of water as soon as your anger arises. Patient endurance of the things which is beyond your control is very rewarding.
4. A patient man conquers all. Try and you will win.
5. Above all prayer is the key to success both in overcoming oneself from all that you feel repugnance and in acquiring virtues and merits for heaven.

Answer 7

No, the opposite of hatred is love; and that's why getting rid of hatred is so difficult. The opposite of anger is joy.

Indifference is impossible - it's like saying "I don't care." That would be a lie you'd have to repeat to yourself until you believed it, and you'd still be believing a lie. It's like capping a volcano and calling it extinct.

What have you learned from the bad treatment you received? Are you able to come alongside others and help them as a result? That would certainly be something creative. You don't say what you suffered, but maybe there is a local volunteer organisation who could use someone who understands pain, like you. Samaritans comes to mind; they save the lives of people on the edge of suicide.

If you are looking for spiritual answers, I'd suggest an Alpha course, where you can ask hard questions like "Where was God when all this was going on?" Alpha is free.

Answer 8

The answer that you where given was good and that's one way. My advice is to make anger work for you. Anger generates emotion, Emotion generates feelings and feelings generate expressions and expressions generate creativity. Analyse your emotions and write and let other people benefit from your knowledge

Answer 9

Read 'Julia Peculiar' questions on Y/A, then vent all your anger at her. You will not need to vent it at anyone else then.

Answer 10

I choose avoidance. I don't watch the news so that I don't get angry and I keep away from people I hate.