is it stupid and utopia to expect that your love would think you are the sexiest girl in the world?

Question

i am pretty and i know that, and he keeps repeating that to me. i know i am pretty, but not the prettiest, but i do kind of expect that my boyfriend would think of me like that. because i do think of him like that. and i know if we split up, i'd be looking for a similar looking guy. not because i love him, but because he's sexy. what does it mean, that he doesn't love me anymore ( coz he said i'm the sexiest in the world in the beggining of our relationship), or his love isn't "blind" anymore, or i am simply childish, which i can be sometimes. i just like to be the no1 ( you know like Monica from friend) :)

Answer 1

No, I dont think you are being obsessive. My partner thinks I am the most beautiful woman in the world. I feel like the most beautiful woman in the world when I am with him. Im certainly not the most beautiful woman in the world, but to him I am. Maybe he still sees you as the most beautiful woman in the world but doesnt verbalise it as much because maybe he thinks you understand that he still thinks that way without the need to say it. You will know if he still feels that way about you by the way he looks at you....the way he treats you. A look can mean more than a thousand words. They say verbal communication is only about 15% of total communication. Body language, the way they speak, the way they look at you will tell you more than anything a person says. If you are feeling insecure about the lack of him telling you how beautiful you are, then ask him. Maybe he doesnt realise that you need to hear him saying it to make you believe it. My partner doesnt have to tell me how beautiful I am, I just know it by the way he treats me....how he looks at me and how he loves me. Actions always speak louder than words, but I do think we need verbal confirmation occasionally.

Answer 2

Boys and men are visual people. It seems you are insecure about yourself? Having high expectations will get you a bigger let down. So, ask him what he thinks of you and tell him you need to hear that once in a while. Having an open relationship is the best. I know it might be hard to ask for what you need but, the older you get the more it becomes a habit. Getting our needs is a big deal in relationships and sometimes we have to ask. Don't get all freaked out if he looks (not touches) at other girls, it's in men's nature to do that. As long as he is comes home with you it shouldn't matter. Good luck and chin up.

Answer 3

I would suspect that he don't love u anymore and that u should get u'r head out your *** and stop looking for mister smoking hot and learn to look into a person and find out what really important u idiot.This sounds like a rambling ninth grader who needs to grow up and wise up.Not to mention u might have been alot sexier in the begining because u wern't growling at him.Take a chill pill princess.Brought to u by nabisco.

Answer 4

I think every woman would hope that they are the sexiest and number one in their man's eyes. It's every woman's dilemma. I don't think it's childish...sadly just unrealistic. I totally know how you feel, and it sucks. All that matters is...you're the one he's dating now because he chose you. You should feel special. =)

Answer 5

Wait 20 years, then your going to have a real problem. even you wont think your the hottest anymore. besides wouldnt it be better to find a REAL quality in yourself that is the best in the world?

Answer 6

as a man i think if he thinks u r sexy then he just think u r sexy means he is not in love with u

Answer 7

Thats the way the cookie crumbles DUDE...Look deep inside of YOU!!!

Answer 8

Why would anyone tell his girlfriend he doesn't find her to be all that sexy any more? Dump him

Answer 9

It is called self-obsession and it is a sickness.

Answer 10

yes