How can I convince my partner to not name our baby like this...?

Question

I want to name my baby boy either JAY or NATHAN or "Nathan Jay".............but he wants to name the baby like him and with his grandfather's middle name, which would be "Eduardo Francisco (Rodriguez)"....I mean, is not that bad, but I don't like it at all!..it's too long, and old fashioned. he does not want to name the baby Jay or Nathan because he says that those names are only for "white boys" and not for people of Mexican descent like we both are; but still, that's not a good excuse....I want to convince him, but he's very stubborn..

Answer 1

Just tell him that you will never agree to let him name the baby by himself. You have to find a name that you both like - because it's incredibly unfair otherwise. You both made this baby - you should both get a say in what he will be called.

Why don't you choose the first name - since you have to go through all the pain of childbirth. And let him choose the middle name. That is probably the fairest way to do things - especially as the baby will probably get his surname too, and not yours. If he refuses then tell him he can choose the first name - but only if the baby gets your surname. And be firm about it. Hopefully that will get him to see how unreasonable he is being.

For what it's worth I think Nathan Eduardo or Jay Francisco are rather nice. But if you can't agree - then you both may have to choose completely different names. Good luck! :-)

Answer 2

I love the name nathan ray. You know I think maybe you guys could compromise and have his first name nathan and his middle name a name from mexican decent. Perhaps Nathan Eduardo or Nathan Francisco. You need to be strong about what you feel about this or else your baby boy will be stuck with a name you do not like. Be Strong!

Answer 3

I can understand him wanting to use the family names but I agree with you...they're terrible for this day and age!
You have a couple of options though.....

Try and come to an agreement of using Jay or Nathan as the first name and then either Eduardo or Francisco or both as the middle name/s.
or
cut all names and both write a list of names that you like. When you've had time to think about it, then compare lists and see what similarities you both have and find a name that you can both agree on (and use family name Eduardo in the middle)
or
wait until after the birth and when he see's how much pain and trauma you have just been through you can use the 'guilt trip' scenario and say, now after all that I don't have a say!? or something to that effect whilst putting on big puppy dog eyes or even crying!
Its worth a try if all else fails!

Best of luck and I hope you can come to an agreement. It shouldn't be one sided and you should get a say in your own son's name.

Answer 4

Its the baby that is important and its a real shame you are disagreeing now. I allowed my husband to choose the middle name of our eldest son which is a family name it is Alexander and at the time I did not like it at all but I now think its a great name and also I think it is very important that your husband has that choice as a family tradition.I agree Jay is a very white name and was popular several years ago so there must be a huge amounts of jays. Personally i dont like it. It reminds me of an Australian surfer .Nathan is a better choice

Answer 5

I'd advise you to sit down with your husband and discuss some sort of compromise. For example, you could suggest mix and matching names, such as Eduardo Jay or Francisco Nathan (or other options which may come to your mind). Alternatively, discuss whether you intend on raising this child with his Mexican heritage - if so, Eduardo Francisco may better fit with the heritage. Also, keep in mind that obviously your husband has a sentimental attachment to the name, as it is he grandfather's name, and therefore you need to have some respect for the fact he would like to honour his grandfather in this manner. So, as old fashioned as it is, maybe you need to concede to at least allow one of the two names to be used. And whilst I truly respect your stance, I do strongly suggest that you hold on to one of the two names, because if you choose to raise your son minus his Mexican ties, it is likely one day he will start asking questions, and at least he may feel at some ease with a Mexican name.

I wish you and your husband all the best and may your bundle of joy bring endless happiness to your lives.

Answer 6

Compromise.

Jay's dumb as a name anyway. Nathan's OK but I see he's proud of his origins - and there are lots of Nathan's in every school.

What about Francisco Nathan? Nathan Eduardo?

Anglicise and use Edward and/ or Francis?

You still get Ed/ Eddie/ Ted/ Ned and Frank/ Franky

My friends are Irish and she had to persuade him to have James Patrick rather than Seamus Padraig

Answer 7

It sounds like you need to find names you can both agree on.

He had a part in making this baby so he should get a share in naming it.

Start looking for names you can agree on and find some kind of compromise. It's the only fair thing to do.

And this stuff about "It's your right to name the baby what you want because you go through labor" is hooey. You made the baby together and you're going to share caring for it for the next 18 years. Don't make daddy bitter by leaving him out.

Answer 8

Nathan Francisco?

To be honest Nathan Jay is an adorable name, I prefer it over the other name.

Answer 9

How open do you think your husband will be to naming your son the English version of a spanish name? How open will you be?
Also, although Nathan, isn't a spanish name, Natanael is.
Hope this helps!

Edward Francis Rodriguez
Nathan Eduardo Rodriguez
Natanael Jay Rodriguez

*EDUARDO
Gender: Masculine

Usage: Spanish, Portuguese

Pronounced: e-DHWAHR-do (Spanish)

Spanish and Portuguese form of EDWARD

*FRANCISCO
Gender: Masculine

Usage: Spanish, Portuguese

Pronounced: frahn-SEES-ko (Spanish), frahn-THEES-ko (Spanish)

Spanish and Portuguese form of Franciscus (see FRANCIS). A notable bearer was Francisco de Goya, a Spanish painter and engraver. The name was also borne by Spanish dictator Francisco Franco.

*NATANAEL
Gender: Masculine

Usage: Spanish, Portuguese

Spanish and Portuguese form of NATHANAEL

Answer 10

Your the one whos having the baby!! I think if you gave your baby the name Jay or Nathan he would be unique as hes mexican Nathan-Jay is really unique xx good luck xx