2007-11-16 18:52:23 · 10 answers · asked by whiskey0924 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Instead of you thinking on the negativisms try to focus yourself on how your relationship with him helped you a lot. Ask yourself, what could my life looked like if I haven't met him? and even ask yourself, am I just being so paranoid that he never loved me. Do not just blame your problems to him, perhaps you are also a part
of it. Be thankful that you are experiencing that situation for it will teach you so much. It's a challenge you really have to take without you resorting into a separation. When he comes home tonight give yourself the courage to say thank you to him and please always tell him "I love you". Do not surrender and believe me he loves you more than you could ever imagine.
I am not telling you to live on fantasies but a positive thought would always be the best for now for poisoning yourself with pessimisms would only worsen the problem. Have hope and at least find time to pray.
2007-11-16 19:37:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People express love in very very different ways- I doubt you would have marrioed him if you didnt believe he loved yo uat some point. Dr. Gary Chapman has a great book called "The Five Love Languages". You can get it on Amazon.com. Show him this question, and try reading the book TOGETHER.
2007-11-17 03:07:11 · answer #2 · answered by kttphoenix 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try reading the book "The Five Love Languages" by Chapman. It has helped me understand some things about relationships. Also, you might consider marriage counseling.
2007-11-17 03:19:12 · answer #3 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been married 14 1/2 yrs myself.
Hmmm, lets see.....
My husband is not the best in communication. Sometimes, its a guessing game to know what he's really thinking or feeling, and sometimes when we do communicate, I still dont "get him"...and sometimes, he catches me off guard by doing something or saying something that totally proves he was paying attention when I felt like I was the only one in the room. That's just how he works, and after 14 yrs of being with him, I have accepted the fact that he is like that, and I cant change it, so I deal with it cause I love him as I am assuming you love your husband.
The second part of your question is a little tougher...after 14 years, at the very least, you should be able to tell if he is still in love with you or has fallen out of love with you. Have you ever asked him point blank? Communication is absolute KEY essential when it comes to a question like that. Not being smart at all here, but you ask "us" ...you need to ask him! You have given 14 years of your life up to share with him, and so has he given 14 yrs of his life for you, but if he wont answer a question like that, with absolute honesty, and be willing to talk to you about it, then I wouldnt help but feel that was my answer, (if it were me)BUT,... you have to let him in on how your feeling, if you havent. (it is obvious in his eyes when you ask, really, the eyes are the window to ones heart and soul, if you look directly into them, and ask your question, he cant hide)
I am still with my husband because I KNOW he loves me. He is "tough guy" on the outside, and even to other people which is not really too cool to be (we have had our share of rough times), but thats one of the reasons I'm still here...he fudges up alot...alot....did I say alot?....has made some jacked up choices in our life together, and can still be extremely difficult to communicate with, ( I aint no angel, but we're talking about the husbands right now lol), but the bottom line is I know, without hesitation, without doubt, his love for me is genuine, non waivering.
Yes people show love in different ways, but you should be able to tell in one of those ways that he loves you.
Again, if you havent already, you really need to talk to him, tell him how you feel and ask him.
If you dont feel comfortable with asking,... you should be.
If your scared of his answer,...dont be
You dont get him?,...well....aha, good answer.....he probably dont get you either!?!, but hey, that keeps things spicy sometimes...think of it as "adventure...mystery...he's a man.....(thats what my momma says anyway, again, lol??)
I hope in someway I helped...it's funny, me and my husband were just discussing tonight the fact that we have been married for 14 yrs...(i thouht it was 13), and I have to say,its been one hell of a ride, but we prevail thru it all, we're still here, and I hope you get it worked out too, but YOU HAVE TO talk to HIM, we can only guess and give our opinions, right?
Take care and I'll pray for answers and success for you both,
God Bless
2007-11-17 04:06:42 · answer #4 · answered by harleylover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry some people though they love deeply they never show their emotions.bcoz he loves you he is sticking on with y ou for 14 years.
2007-11-17 03:01:12 · answer #5 · answered by kamal m 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people are self centred. They dont use words but their behavoiur tells of their love
2007-11-17 02:57:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
That is a big problem, too many years and you haven´t notice? better you find out or u will lost your life waiting for something that will never come...
good luck
2007-11-17 02:59:24 · answer #7 · answered by candela-ROCKCOBRA 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
if you cant tell after that long then why did u marry him then
2007-11-17 14:13:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
then you need to get a divorce!
2007-11-17 04:45:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you don't know, why did you marry him ???
2007-11-17 02:58:48 · answer #10 · answered by Chrys 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋