Step daughters husband is a DRUNK,drup abuser, and just won't work!!! They left town 6 months ago, w/10K, went broke, sold most of their stuff, and now think they're moving back home w/her MOM &I. We are finacilly broke, barley making ends meets, I can't stand this bum, I've never seen him sober, won't work more than 2 weeks, he's 30yrs old, I've had enough, I could give you details, but won't, enough is enough!! This may cost me a marriage, complete fincial ruins, I'm too old for this crap. AM I WRONG?!?!?!?
2007-11-16 17:39:07 · 11 answers · asked by happywjc 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
hes a looser , and needs to go.
2007-11-17 06:22:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
i imagine this can be a extremely rotten trick of her to clutter including his suggestions like that at the same time as he's so some distance away and may want to't do something, like search for suggestion from mutually with her head to head about it. Did he go away questioning all changed into properly and he'd have a spouse to come back abode to after the hell he is going by ability of? If he did then this can be a double kick interior the tummy to him. in the experience that they already had issues, he might want to have suspected it and may want to no longer be a great deal surprised by ability of the records. properly, now he's loose to locate the employer of a positive female distant places if he so chooses!! by ability of ways, did she supply a reason behind springing it on him now?
2016-10-24 09:26:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is when you say NO, sorry your not moving in here. They are adults, it is their problem not yours. And your wife needs to support you in this, if she insists then allow the daughter to move back in, but not the bum. And tell the daughter she will get a job, she will pay rent and she will pay part of the bills and buy her own food, or pay for part of it also. Don't let them use you, and ruin your marriage. And set a time limit on how long she can stay with you.
But you need to tell your wife if you bail her out of this, then she will never learn any responsibility.
2007-11-16 17:47:27 · answer #3 · answered by cris 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
NO you're NOT wrong. I've been where he's at now. You have to say NO! If you give in then you are just helping him support his habits and he WON'T stop until he hits bottom. Believe me it's a long fall. And you're not doing your step-daughter any favors either if you give in to them. A hard question is that, is SHE also using? Love means sometimes having to say no. You say you won't give details...o.k.....I already know them. And I'm glad, and thankful, that I was finally told NO!
2007-11-16 17:55:05 · answer #4 · answered by keydoto 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If the step daughter's parent won't break her plate. Then you may have no choice but to leave. It will do no good for you to go down the crapper with the rest of them. Some people like drama in their lives. Give your spouse the choice you or them and then be prepared.
2007-11-16 17:44:56 · answer #5 · answered by just me 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
HECK NO! Why would you invite mess into your home. To keep your marriage, tell your wife you have no problems with your daughter coming home to get her self together, but under no terms will her husband be allowed in your home....And stand on it. If you have to leave, leave but don't create misery for yourself!
2007-11-16 17:50:00 · answer #6 · answered by lekeshia s 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, you are surley not wrong. He is a bum and needs to grow up. When two people get married they support each other not mooch off their parents and in-laws.
2007-11-16 17:43:53 · answer #7 · answered by Gemini Baby 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Put your foot down. Its your home.Dont't the the BUMS in. Yes the daughter too, He didn't blow the 10k himself...
2007-11-16 17:44:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
nope you not wrong to think this you need a life to . i hate to say this but he made his bed need to figure a way out
and need to stand your ground they are adults need to take the responsibility of it know Its what we parents call tough love
i know you know what that is but you raised yours kids i don't know if they have any but the only one you need to worry about is you )
2007-11-16 17:47:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. They are married, its their responsibility to figure it out.......not your problem. And don't give an inch otherwise they will take a mile.
2007-11-16 17:45:43 · answer #10 · answered by Lisa W 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
heck no. I sure don't blame you!! Enabling the guy is no help to him or to anyone. It would only give him a reason to not change.
2007-11-16 17:54:31 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋