Is it worth falling in love while
working towards a career?...im 19, and worried about getting a stable career and good education..sometimes, i wonder how it is like to have a 'partner,' but i realized i tend to be 'obsessive' with crushes...so, i thought i cant be in a relationship while at school and starting a career...would it be ok to still have never been in a relationship at 30s? i figured theres so much to do, but i dont want to seem silly to have never been kissed by that age.....
2007-11-16 15:12:31 · 7 answers · asked by vincent m 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Honey-you don't choose love, It chooses you. And when the time comes you'll know it. It is not for other people to make this choice for you. It is your choice to make. You just make sure that when the time comes you have a like minded mate that supports your dreams and goals and live life as life is meant to be. Each one of us has a different path. We are not born with road maps and time lines. So please try not to obsess about it. Make each day count. Good luck.
2007-11-16 15:28:44 · answer #1 · answered by Shelley C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to tell if you're falling in love or infatuation. too much of America is blindly (because they have no prior experience) falling into what they think and believe to be love. Then 6 or 8 years into the relationship when the "newness" has worn off, these couples end up separating and divorcing. And the truth is is that after the newness wears off there if there is no friendship to hold the two together. Then it won't last.
I am on my third marriage. I first one at 25, I was totally blinded. I married after a year of knowing this woman. And we lived and loved for a couple of years. Then things settled into a norm. And we started to grow apart. eventually ending in divorce. But in hind site I can say that we met and it was exiting. But because there was no real friendship. It fell apart.
How can you possibly know some one after a year. I believe that we don't really know someone until we have lived with them. And we know their habits, good and bad. We know there likes and dislikes. We know their past and their hopes for the future. I don't believe an everlasting love can't be built in a year.
Also you are only 19. You are going to change and mature so much. Have fun right now. What's the rush? Besides, you find true love when you are not looking for it.
2007-11-16 15:45:40 · answer #2 · answered by fixn2rock 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why jump from 19s to 30s, in one go?It shows confusion at work and it may act as a distraction at this crucial stage.There never was and shall never be any dearth of women and opportunities in this world but in the absence of proper career and a suitable economic/social standing, one may have to settle for less in life,be it a girl for a wife ,a car,a house ,a social circle and a host of other creature comforts or a status.If you believe that it's prudent to do one thing well at a time and also that input gets corresponding out put in this universe,then be prepared to put in your undiluted and focused Best now and live in anticipation of a better life,which shall come to you by your right.By the way,to experience and enjoy a kiss,one doesn't have to put so much at stake.Such minor experiences can be had for a song and may be,followed by some Music as well.All the best.
2007-11-16 16:00:18 · answer #3 · answered by brkshandilya 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Real love isn't obsessive, it is warm, comfortable, comforting, understanding, sexy and fun all at the same time. It sometimes has disagreements and rocky edges, but it endures and it is real. It can happen at any time, but is rarely found when searched for. It is a gift and a treasure and it is a responsibility and at all times must be valued as much as a career. Love takes maturity and confidence, friendships can grow into love, crushes are often physical and without substance. Take your time, enjoy who you are now, glory in your personal growth and treasure the friends and experiences you are having.
2007-11-16 16:35:31 · answer #4 · answered by Bobbi D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is destiny. It happens when you are living your life.
I was 19 when I got married. I never planned for it. You can definitely have the love of your life and a career. You don't have to plan for it, it will happen.
I thought I had things planned, but destiny took over and gave me the best life I could have imagined. I have been married for 25 years now. I worked~had a career~children, and now I'm working again. Just enjoy every day and love will happen if it's in your heart. :)
2007-11-16 16:28:45 · answer #5 · answered by 2gd2b4rl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's absolutely worth it!! Don't rush it. You're young and still have lots of time. Get your education and career going first.
2007-11-16 15:20:13 · answer #6 · answered by A M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You make it sound like it's an option. It's not!
2007-11-16 15:35:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋